My BH has two close friends that he has known since middle school...they were all in each other weddings, we have gone away with the other couples before, and though my BH doesn't see these guys that often, when they do see each other they pick up right where they left off...I know both of these guys wives and we are all friendly when we get together with our husbands.
Since my A I have only seen these two couples a few times, but each time they were still friendly and polite towards me...I am assuming the wives know all the details of what has happened with me and my BH since he has gone to the two friends often throughout the last year.
My BH told me last night (and also posted a thread about it in general) that one of the friends (we will call him Bob) thinks that his wife (we will call her Sue) is having an EA. My BH is going to BOb's house today with the other friend....Bob hasn't confronted Sue yet but is planning on doing so.
Based on what my BH has told me, my own gut reaction, and the replies my BH has gotten on the thread it seems very likely that Sue is having an A.
My question is, when and if the A comes out should I reach out to Sue? She may not even want to hear it, but I feel bad for her....not that I condone her choices (if she is having an A) but I know what she is going through and I know she will need support too.
However she may not even want help cuz after finding out about my A, Bob And my BH got together one night and I guess she was upset that Bob was going to go and told him it was our problem and not.to get involved.
Has anyone else gone through a similar situation? How did it end up?
Or what would you do if you were faced with this.situation?