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ajsmom (original poster member #17460) posted at 4:49 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
I'll be needing all your good thoughts tomorrow as I head into our Family Christmas celebration. The two family members that made our holidays such a joke last year will be there. Baby Sis Beotch is hosting and Beotch Niece will be attending with that very special snowflake kid of hers.
I’ve not seen either of them in well over a year and haven’t spoken to either of them since the whole Chuck E. Cheesegate last December. My plan is simple – to walk in, greet the hostess and her family, hand the cards with checks over to the under 18 niece and nephews, then promptly find a seat somewhere and not move until it’s time to leave.
As to the niece, I plan to mumble a hello (no hugs – she gets NO hugs from me!) tap the snowflake on the melon hello, and return to my seat. Sis has made it crystal clear there will be no alcohol provided, so I may just have to be totin’ a little sumptin’, sumptin’ to get me through the two or so hours I plan to be there before my *cough, cough* - “next obligation”.
Which just happens to be the closest tavern.
Cover me, peeps! Will report back later.
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 4:55 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Good luck ajsmom...sending you good thoughts of a conveniently pocket sized flask. 
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:57 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
We've got your back. Don't forget to park where you can't be blocked in.
Strength, sister!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ajsmom (original poster member #17460) posted at 5:13 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Don't forget to park where you can't be blocked in.
Oh, yes - must remember this!
Thanks!
[This message edited by ajsmom at 11:20 AM, December 27th (Friday)]
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 6:05 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Can you have someone call you to let you know you're 'late' for your next 'obligation'? Hasty goodbyes and you're out the door! 
Good luck!
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:10 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
(((Ajsmom)))
I too have my dysfunctional family Christmas tomorrow, and there is never alcohol, at least now they allow us to bring our own, they just won't provide it. I already have my flask of Bourbon ready.
I will think of you, as my Step-Mother-in-Law stress over the ham, and the Step-Brothers-in-law talk about their favorite weed is, and ponder why the youngest grandchild is developmentally delayed.....
I too plan to sit in a corner quietly, and hope that work needs me, or there is a honeybee swarm to capture or something to assist us out the door in a timely fashion.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 6:30 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:47 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Sending mojo and good thoughts.
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 7:07 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
You got it. Sending loads of mojo!!
((((ajsmom))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 7:14 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
You're going......because?????
But since you are, flasks of mojo comin' at ya!
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 7:20 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Double tequila shot in the car before going in. That's how I cope with the dysfunctional side (Mom's) of the family.
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 11:50 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
Good luck AJ!!! You can do it!! 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 1:10 AM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 3:23 AM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
AJ's Mom... You have all my support going in and getting out alive and in one piece.
You have way more strength than I... I don't even pretend that I want to see my family. They know I don't like them... and I am pretty sure they don't like me.
Hang Tough!!!
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 10:18 AM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
Sending mojo for coverage, may it act like an invisibility cloak to the people you want to avoid.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 2:02 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
I hope it goes well! Nothing better than being enclosed in a room with difficult family members for an unknown amount of time. I did it for years, and I'm still standing. Mojo to you!
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 3:53 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
Good luck today, ajsmom. Sending you mojo to have a day filled with peace and serenity.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 4:18 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
Thinking of you today!
Send you strength, calm, and a BIIIIIIG glass of wine.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 4:27 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2013
Just checking for an update. Hope all went well!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
movingforward777 ( member #6850) posted at 6:05 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2013
Hopefully you had a wonderful Christmas with your family and did not let the "bitches" ruin things for you......HUGS
You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith
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