Believe it or not, sex for men is like affection for women. Men feel emotional towards someone they have sex with. It gives us that feeling of love, at least it does for me.
When a women has sex with a man, it speaks volume. It says:
"I desire you..."
"I want you like nothing matters..."
"I will do whatever to make you feel love..."
Just compare it to when you get affection and how special you feel. Either way, all these should be reserved for our spouses... It sucks when you know that boundaries have been crossed.
I know our WS become this selfish creature that believes:
1. I am entitled to this
2. I have a need and I need it met by any means necessary.
Affairs are like drugs, candy for a broken soul. Why would someone choose their best friends wife or any friend of the family...
POOR BOUNDARIES to start, and at some point, they cross a boundaries slowly before they realize it is too late and then they are caught up in their web, their drug and just let go of is right and wrong and just all out no matter what the cost. They create a fantasy between themselves built on their own desires and lies while avoiding all the responsibility of real relationships.
No one gets hurt if they don't know about, and we don't have to suffer if no one knows. This life is absolutely polluted and built around lies and secrecy with no truth. It's built around making each other happy no matter what to keep the drug coming.