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User Topic: Bad dream, but I think I fixed it!
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Content  Posted: 11:41 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a vivid dreamer. I dream in 3-D, techni-color, surround sound, the works. Dreams, good or bad, always seem very real to me. This morning I woke up out of a doozy: XWH and OW had gotten engaged. I had the poor fortune to apparently work with her, and we were standing around outside with some other co-workers. She was flashing a huge engagement ring and babbling about how XWH's mother and sister were going to get some special wedding gift for her, not "them", HER. Then she looked right at me, smiled, and winked.

I woke up feeling sick to my stomach, the way I used to feel every morning right after d-day. XWH and OW getting married is definitely one of my fears. A BIG fear, apparently. Anyway, I kept thinking about it and thinking about it, and finally invented this little scenario to make me feel better. Hope you enjoy.

XWH: So darling, I've been thinking about our relationship, and how perfect we are for each other

OW: (clasps her giant fake-nail hands and bats her eyes) Omg, SO perfect!

XWH: I mean, I'm a completely worthless parent, you're a completely worthless parent....

OW: *blissful sigh*

XWH: You're such an amazing liar, it's one of qualities that drew me to you

OW: Oh thank you, lover! And so are you!

XWH: (nods smugly) I know, right? My stupid ex-wife had no idea I was banging both of you for nearly a year.

OW: Exactly! Wait... what??

XWH: Never mind, darling. (he kisses her so hard that her tiny brain falls out of her ear and gets stuck in her cheap dangly earring. he frees it and shoves it back in her ear) Anyway, I love knowing so much about you, that you're totally without morals or boundaries.... that I can never fully trust you, no matter what.

OW: I feel the same way about you!

XWH: And you know how my kids feel about you....

OW: I know! They hate me even more than they hate you!

XWH: So I've been thinking.... since it won't actually mean anything, and it'll be fun to be the center of attention and get some free gifts, we should totally get married. We can always cheat on each other if we get bored or something.

OW: Oh pookey!!! That is SO romantic! I lurve you soooo much! Yes, let's get married!

.... And they lived Happily Never After.
The End.

It's completely silly but this recovered my morning after that horrible dream. If you are struggling with this like I am, I hope it helps you too!

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords

Posts: 1857 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brilliant, gypsybird. Just brilliant.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I LOVE your scenario!!! I may steal parts of it when I need a sanity check with regard to their relationship!

BS - me (53 now); WS - him (53 now)
DD 17yo, DS 13 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013
DIVORCED!!!! and doing well

Posts: 249 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I literally LOLed at the "we can always cheat on each other if we get bored"

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!

Posts: 949 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
♂ 40268
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My nightmares are still often and very vivid. This scenario was awesome. Thank you

"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"

Posts: 1028 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lol I love the realism in your scenario ... they are amoral, cheating liars .. and they truly deserve each other! lol

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
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