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My wife of 17 years finally quit lying and told me on December 10 she was having an affair. I have been on an emotional rollercoaster. I was on the way to my lawyers office when she told me. I could have gotten past the cheating but the lies just floored me. Thus is a repeat of 2009. Diagnosed her as bipolarII. I have 3 boys with her 12 10 and 8. The worst part is she was my best friend. We fought and I thought we got over stuff but I guess she didn't. I have not been an angel and the years since 09 have been tough on both of us. I asked her numerous times to just leave me if she wanted but please don't cheat on me again.
She moved out on Thanksgiving eve about 3 blocks from his house saying it was so she could be close the her moms house. She said she wanted two weeks and we would work on us. My heart believed but my conscience couldn't.
I filed for divorce on December 23.
The worst part of it is she continuously takes my kids around this man. Football games eating out and over to his and her house.
Just hate all of this.

(((cgaines)))
I wish words could make it better. The part that sucks is there are no words that can take this pain away.
You deserve better. Either alone, or with someone else, you don't need her bringing you down. I've had two friends who were married to men with BPD. It's a heartbreaking disorder.
Sorry she is taking your kids around that POS loser. He won't last, though. Not much comfort, I know.

She just came by to pick my boys up. She moved on so fast. It is just hard to take right now. They know something amiss with this guy especially the oldest. I noticed it coming on last February and she finally found someone to take the bait. I don't want her back but I hate the way it happened. She would have been better off just leaving.
We have dogs that we have been swapping out since she left. She didn't take them today saying they didn't want to be at her house. Well hell the kids don't either. Idk I'm just in limbo right now.

Lots and lots of hugs. K!
(((((((cgaines)))))))