The day before V day we all went to get dinner together, him, me and her, as well as our son and then went to his parents house. That was also the day that my husband and I took our son to the park and spent all day walking around and enjoying the sunshine; it was a perfect day and I felt so in love, I remember not wanting to leave. Three days later I found out about the affair. I think I'm going to be sick. As D-day approaches I seem to just get more and more sad with less happy times in between. Christmas was damn hard, and New Years is going to be just as bad and then I will have D-day coming and I am starting to panic. Valentine's Day was the day my husband proposed to me, but now it is just another trigger.
Forgiveness means understanding, acceptance and giving up on looking back.
Anyway it's trigger city for the next couple months.... so you are in good company with all of us.. no wonder I don't like to go into the stores anymore. shopping has lost its appeal and I just don't care to go anymore.
Finally10 went shopping (lovely gifts and cards), decorated the table and cooked me dinner. He won't usually let himself be silly, but he stuck holiday clings onto my mirrors saying he loved me. It was so unexpected and really showed me he was willing to try. Wanted to try.
This year, I've decided it's my turn too, so I think we will both do some things for the day. I was so triggery last year, but am feeling no pain seeing the stuff at the store this year.
I wish you a peaceful heart going through it.
I'm sorry for you. I'm sorry for myself too. Heck I'm sorry for all of us here. Christmas was actually okay. Valentine's week is going to be so much worse. This too shall pass.
Is every holiday going to be a trigger now I wonder?
Oh, I hope not.... Hopefully someone further out will respond with encouragement that time helps the holiday triggers too!!