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tesla posted 12/27/2013 21:09 PM

I talked to Teslet on the phone for a little bit. I reminded him that I'm picking him up tomorrow (after being at ex-shat's for over a week...ugh!) and that we are taking a plane trip...that I'm packing his bag and wanted to know if there was anything special he'd like to take. He got so excited and started talking about how he wants to take his legos. I got him a couple of lego sets for Christmas and we had a wonderful time putting them together and playing with them Christmas Day. I let him know that his cousin has bunches of them, so we won't need to take too many. He then says this, "But mom, dad says that you won't be able to buy me any more because they are too expensive but it's okay because any new legos I get will be from him."

Whoa. Seriously, this is what ex-shat has stooped to. How sad. BUt to me, this is his karma: I don't need him. So many times going through the D process he would say that I wouldn't be able to make it, that I would need to come to him for help. Even at our court date at the end of October he was saying that if I ever needed money, all I had to do was call him up and ask!! He said this shit...on the stand!!!

I have done just fine. We aren't living the high life here, but I've been careful and we've been able to do some nice things.

And this is all he has left...to send his kid to me in sweatshirts that talk about the little sister and say that I won't be able to afford legos for him. Pathetic.

This guy has completely screwed his own life over. Completely. Trust me, he's fucked. Does he work to make it better? Does he take some ownership for his mistakes? Does he simply say, "Wow, I didn't know you liked legos so much Teslet, maybe we should pick up a set for you and work on it together." Nope. He just sinks deeper.

After all the pain and heartache of his infidelity, the humiliation of what he left me for, all the worrying that I would never be able to be the fun parent, that I would lose Teslet because I would have to be the strict parent...it's going to be ok.
It's absolutely going to be fine.
I think that for the first time, I truly believe this!

This calls for a glass of wine!

brightsidegirl posted 12/27/2013 21:12 PM

That is great stuff. Being able to stand on your own is so powerful. Even if you aren't living the high life, you are filling your home with love and laughter. I am doing the same thing and feel truly wealthy because of it. Keep it up and have fun on your trip!

nowiknow23 posted 12/27/2013 21:17 PM

It's absolutely going to be fine.
I think that for the first time, I truly believe this!

FaithFool posted 12/27/2013 21:24 PM

This ^^^^^.

Kajem posted 12/27/2013 21:29 PM

Tesla,

Raising a glass to you and your young man. Happy New Year!

ruinedandbroken posted 12/27/2013 21:30 PM

Awesome!!!

Gr8Lady posted 12/27/2013 21:50 PM

You SO deserve a gloat.

Have a wonderful trip and Happy New Year. 🍷

Nature_Girl posted 12/27/2013 21:58 PM

Feel free to come back & gloat when you do something or provide something and Teslet tells you that Daddy said you couldn't or wouldn't. It's a good feeling, and I'd like to share in yours when it happens.

BAB61 posted 12/27/2013 22:08 PM

I <3 THIS!! Gloat away Tesla!!

careerlady posted 12/27/2013 22:25 PM

In his dreams! What a loser. Can't believe he can't do better than that. Well I'm proud of you for doing so well, I know it's not easy. Enjoy the fruits of your labor! Happy new year to you and Teslet!

Chrysalis123 posted 12/27/2013 22:35 PM

Tesla...how wonderful!!! It IS going to be OK. I am so happy for you that you know that too.

SBB posted 12/27/2013 22:36 PM

Gloat away mamma!

yestopants posted 12/27/2013 22:42 PM

Actions speak louder than words! Cheers!

debbysbaby posted 12/27/2013 22:43 PM

It's time to buy your son one of those big ass hundred dollars sets of Legos and take lots of pictures for him to go show his dad. What a stupid fucker.

ItHappened2Me2 posted 12/27/2013 22:49 PM

Gloat away!!!!

it's going to be ok.
It's absolutely going to be fine.
I think that for the first time, I truly believe this!

peridot posted 12/27/2013 23:32 PM

When is his birthday? I think you should buy the store out of Legos lol.

timeforchange posted 12/27/2013 23:38 PM

When you built the backyard play set single handily I thought to myself here is a mom who will be just fine.

😀😀😀😀😀

[This message edited by timeforchange at 11:39 PM, December 27th (Friday)]

IrishLass518 posted 12/28/2013 00:10 AM

We always knew you had this within you. You just had to find out for yourself. You have so got this. Teslet knows what Dad says is bunk because he sees you disproving exshat daily. He will grow up and know who his dad really is, his dad is teaching him all the time. Teslet also knows who you are and he knows who to count on. Rock on, Tesla, you totally got this

PurpleRose posted 12/28/2013 00:21 AM

It's really amazing how "ok" things turn out.