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 Dieselpw (original poster new member #41778) posted at 12:27 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013

so had a good moment I think??? BS activated my old email account and then told me about it. I wasn't mad I actually felt some relief. one being that I don't have to worry about any of that anymore I don't have to run to my phone when I get a message I don't get that pit in my stomach when I hear it ring. two her checking it and me telling her that there is nothing there gave us a chance to show I was telling the truth. these moments are good cause I have a long road to rebuild trust and its little steps like that that will help.

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 12:31 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013

Every time she gets validation of truth it's another stepping stone in trust.

Good for you, Diesel.

DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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kmom2662 ( member #41494) posted at 2:05 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013

I agree; it's been almost three months that I can leave my ipad out in a table and not worry about whether everything is cleared or hidden, that H can come to bed later than me and I don't have to panic that he is digging for things he can reconstruct. I know he worries that I will backslide, but I can't imagine wanting to go back to that existence of hiding and sneaking.

[This message edited by kmom2662 at 7:36 AM, December 29th (Sunday)]

Me-- WW, 49
Him-- BH, 53 (bobf)
Married 22 years
OEA, chat/email with multiple people over an 8 week period, 8/2013-10/4/2013
D-day 10/4/13
Working on reconciliation

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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 7:54 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013

Yes it is paradoxically freeing. People still in hide mode throw up losing their freedom as an argument for not giving their BS full access to their communications when in reality it is the hiding that keeps them enslaved to particular behaviors (deleting, positioning, constant vigilance, etc.)

Along the same lines I found a lot of time and energy freed up too. A couple of months after d-day I started a container garden and for the first time in my life grew plants without quickly killing them. Some of them are still going!

Stay the course.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

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