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PhoenixRising88 (original poster member #35214) posted at 1:21 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
So every single time a piece of mail shows up for me at STBX's house he contacts me. And I tell him the same thing each time - Set it to the side and i'll make a trip to come get them at some point.
So yesterday I was supposed to go over there after work. But when I got off I was tired and had a headache and driving 30 minutes the opposite direction of where I now reside did not appeal. So I reached out and told him i'd be by on Sunday.
Get a call last night about 7:20. He's bringing it to me.
K whatever dude.
So when he gets here I happen to be outside in the back yard having a cigarette. So my stepdad answers the door. STBX hands him the stuff for me, says 'here you go, take care', turns around and leaves.
Who drives 30 minutes one way on a Friday night just to hand someone a small, non-urgent pile of stuff and just leaves?
That was totally strange. Part of me wanted to call and go WTH? You all right?
Then I remembered that I no longer care! :)
[This message edited by PhoenixRising88 at 7:21 AM, December 28th (Saturday)]
Me: BS(45)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(52). D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/13. Divorced 1/10/14.
New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
justjim ( member #41150) posted at 1:26 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
He expected you to be alone. Your stepdad's presence foiled his plans to yank your chain a little.
YOU WIN! 
Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.
littlefoggy ( member #41429) posted at 1:50 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
^^^^agree
Score one for Phoenix Rising
Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing
PhoenixRising88 (original poster member #35214) posted at 2:37 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
Sigh.
He is blowing up my phone this morning. Crying. Asking me to come back. Breaks my heart a little. But we are where we are due to his actions. i didnt ask to be stabbed in the back, he did that voluntarily. I'm not going back.
Me: BS(45)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(52). D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/13. Divorced 1/10/14.
New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 2:44 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
He is blowing up my phone this morning. Crying. Asking me to come back.
Ah, so the true reason behind his trip comes out.
Fuck that guy. What's wrong? His latest hole dump him? You're nobody's back up plan.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:58 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
^^What they said. His hoovering plans were stymied.
They don't seem to take kindly to them having any consequences. Where were his tears when he ripped your heart out? When he set fire to it?
No - he's lonely and afraid of change. Nothing a little hoovering, love bombing, rugsweeping and gas lighting can't fix, right?
Ignore these antics - they will stop as soon as this parasite finds a new host.
Read the hoovering thread over and over.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828
Also read your tagline. It is awesome.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 3:14 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
Wow, just wow. My IC asked me if I would consider R at this point - my response was 'No, HELL no!' I really do think they are just so out of touch with reality... living in a fantasy in their minds...smh...hang tough Phoenix!
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
ItHappened2Me2 ( member #32503) posted at 3:15 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
Then I remembered that I no longer care! :)
Keep this in mind!!! And the two years of trying -- and the fact that the 61 days waiting period is only a month away!
The consequences to his actions are sneaking up on him. That's something he will need to deal with on his own. Just as you've dealt with the consequence his actions have had on you!
(((PhoenixRising88)))
BS - me (57 now); WS - him (57 now)
DD 21o, DS 17 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013
DIVORCED!!!! and doing well
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