"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

PhoenixRising88 posted 12/28/2013 07:21 AM

So every single time a piece of mail shows up for me at STBX's house he contacts me. And I tell him the same thing each time - Set it to the side and i'll make a trip to come get them at some point.

So yesterday I was supposed to go over there after work. But when I got off I was tired and had a headache and driving 30 minutes the opposite direction of where I now reside did not appeal. So I reached out and told him i'd be by on Sunday.

Get a call last night about 7:20. He's bringing it to me.

K whatever dude.

So when he gets here I happen to be outside in the back yard having a cigarette. So my stepdad answers the door. STBX hands him the stuff for me, says 'here you go, take care', turns around and leaves.

Who drives 30 minutes one way on a Friday night just to hand someone a small, non-urgent pile of stuff and just leaves?

That was totally strange. Part of me wanted to call and go WTH? You all right?

Then I remembered that I no longer care! :)

[This message edited by PhoenixRising88 at 7:21 AM, December 28th (Saturday)]

justjim posted 12/28/2013 07:26 AM

He expected you to be alone. Your stepdad's presence foiled his plans to yank your chain a little.

YOU WIN!

littlefoggy posted 12/28/2013 07:50 AM

^^^^agree

Score one for Phoenix Rising

PhoenixRising88 posted 12/28/2013 08:37 AM

Sigh.

He is blowing up my phone this morning. Crying. Asking me to come back. Breaks my heart a little. But we are where we are due to his actions. i didnt ask to be stabbed in the back, he did that voluntarily. I'm not going back.

sparkysable posted 12/28/2013 08:44 AM

He is blowing up my phone this morning. Crying. Asking me to come back.

Ah, so the true reason behind his trip comes out.

Fuck that guy. What's wrong? His latest hole dump him? You're nobody's back up plan.

SBB posted 12/28/2013 08:58 AM

^^What they said. His hoovering plans were stymied.

They don't seem to take kindly to them having any consequences. Where were his tears when he ripped your heart out? When he set fire to it?

No - he's lonely and afraid of change. Nothing a little hoovering, love bombing, rugsweeping and gas lighting can't fix, right?

Ignore these antics - they will stop as soon as this parasite finds a new host.

Read the hoovering thread over and over.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828

Also read your tagline. It is awesome.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.

BAB61 posted 12/28/2013 09:14 AM

Wow, just wow. My IC asked me if I would consider R at this point - my response was 'No, HELL no!' I really do think they are just so out of touch with reality... living in a fantasy in their minds...smh...hang tough Phoenix!

ItHappened2Me2 posted 12/28/2013 09:15 AM

Then I remembered that I no longer care! :)

Keep this in mind!!! And the two years of trying -- and the fact that the 61 days waiting period is only a month away!

The consequences to his actions are sneaking up on him. That's something he will need to deal with on his own. Just as you've dealt with the consequence his actions have had on you!

(((PhoenixRising88)))