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painfulpast posted 12/29/2013 11:23 AM

Today is my antiversary. I generally don't think much about it, but it is bothersome that 3 years ago today, until about 10pm, I was happy. I had no clue. Well, that's not true. I knew something was wrong, but I never imagined it was infidelity, and I never knew infidelity was so devastating.

So thanks to everyone here at SI - I've only been here a couple months, but the support here is better than I've had in the last 3 years.

I won't be covering the boards today with my blather because when I'm not in the greatest mood, I tend to get into trouble without realizing it, but I did want to thank you all.


nowiknow23 posted 12/29/2013 11:26 AM


Kelany posted 12/29/2013 11:30 AM


SisterMilkshake posted 12/29/2013 11:30 AM

(((painfulpast))) I am really glad to have been able to get to "know" you, painfulpast, however, sad about the circumstances.

I can really relate to much about your post, even the getting in trouble part.

Thinking of you and all who are hurting today. Sending you all warm SI mojo and hugs. I am here to say "It will get better!" it really will, dear ones!

716dayslost posted 12/29/2013 16:05 PM

Sometime we can just be sad, just mourn our past. It is at those times we need the comfort of others than understand us.
Hang in there

TheAgonyOfIt posted 12/29/2013 17:12 PM

Hi PainfulPast

Sorry you are having an especially bad day.

Mourning is tough, anniversaries are tough

Infidelity is devastatingly painful

and things happen in life

people go through things

whether its infidelity or illness or disaster or even war, and well you know the list

so know that while you are in mourning that you are in great company, not only here on SI but all over the world, in every corner, in every town, in every neighborhood

so many are with you in spirit supporting you.

everybody hurts!

sorry you are there now!!


Deeply Scared posted 12/29/2013 22:21 PM


In your short time here you have really shined

Your participation and willingness to be so open, honest and friendly I know is very much appreciated by the entire community.

Thank you for sharing yourself with all of us...I know it's helped a lot of people

Hang in there, we are all here for you too.

painfulpast posted 12/30/2013 07:08 AM

Thank you all!! You're all so sweet and giving.

We had a good night. No mention of the A at all (my choice) and we just hung out and watched a few episodes of "Shameless" (a show we've just started watching so we have 3 seasons to get through).

All day I kept obsessing on how I was happy 3 years before. At some point in the evening, I realized that I had been happy again in the last 3 years, and more happy than sad lately - with a few exceptions I've posted about but yes, happiness does exist after infidelity. It just takes some time to get there.

Thanks again. Your words and support have brought tears to my eyes. Thank you thank you thank you.


[This message edited by painfulpast at 7:09 AM, December 30th (Monday)]

Raven96 posted 12/30/2013 07:25 AM

I'm glad you got through the day. I hope you can do something special for yourself at some point this week. You've EARNED it!!


716dayslost posted 12/30/2013 08:33 AM

Thank you for sharing your triumph over the anniversary of a sad day. Some of us need examples or strength and rising above. Great news to share.

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