Say that it isn't so!
Sorry, friend. It sucks beyond definition. Why can't they learn to be honest after all this time?
The only positive that I can offer you, is that you know what you need to do. You have enough knowledge and experience here to get yourself out of this mess.
Maybe you want to kick yourself for putting yourself in this position once again, but it happens often....regrettably. Some waywards won't change. But you already know this. It is hard not to want to be able to trust our partner again. But if they don't/won't do the hard work, the chance for successful R is pretty slim.
Welcome back. What I am more sorry, is, that you needed to come back. Good luck moving forward.
2 boys-18 & 21(special needs)
Married 22yrs.(together 27yrs.)
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
Acceptance the Marriage is over: 7/2/14
Heading for D