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User Topic: My bff
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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, December 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I confessed I confided in my friend and she stood by me and I loved her for it. We became very close very quickly and she even had me move in for 2 months. She has been BGF and while she likes to have fun when the person is in a relationship she's out. She has felt lonely lately and is definitely wanting a relationship herself. I stayed over her house tonight and found out one of the guys she is talking to is married with kids. I was surprised and she said she didn't do anything physical or send him pics but he flirted with her. I told her to cut it. She told she she promises she's not doing anything....I adore her she supports me and I love but this needs to stop..

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Default  Posted: 1:46 AM, December 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know as well as anyone that you can't control her---but you can show her what is and isn't acceptable behavior.

Decades ago, I had a friend that drove more than one time when he was drunk(no, I wasn't present). And by some miracle, neither he nor others were hurt. But it could have been drastic. I remember telling my brother about this---which really hit home. When my brother was young, both he and a friend went out drunk, got in an accident, and his friend died. It was a terrible time in his life---and he was directly responsible.

Anyway, he told me if I was ever in a vehicle with my friend, and he was drunk, to punch him square in the face. Break his nose right then and there. He wouldn't be able to drive that way. My brother stated that he wished someone did that to him, before he took his friend's life.

Is that the right tactic? Probably not. But it would show what we are and are not tolerant of. Yes, she is your good friend, and she helped you in your dark days, and you can do the same. Show her by not accepting her behavior. Help show her the destruction that will ensue. Be the way of helping her...but intolerant to poor behavior.

Lead that horse to water. Maybe she will take a drink....

2 boys-20 & 23(special needs)
Married 24yrs.(together 30yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
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