NPD-x chose to not use a lawyer. He tried to manipulate my lawyer, and tried to use my lawyer as his lawyer.
His behavior was so odd, because he only hurt himself in the long run. At that time, I did not understand his issues and how severely his thinking was compromised. I wanted to use mediation to work things out, because I did not realize the extent of his emotional problems. The first attempts at mediation showed his ugly side. And made me see how important is was that I had legal protection from his selfish/bully and irrational tactics.
Then him representing himself showed how manipulative he is, and his grandiose ideas that he could also control the courts and my lawyer.
In the end the settlement worked out in my children's benefit. However, he does not see it that way, of course. He views it that I am stealing his money.
He recently filed a motion for modification of CS, SS, and modification of parenting time. He is using a lawyer this time, and the motion states he needed an expedited hearing (skip the state required mediation for disputes) due to his dire financial state plus he wants me to pay him back child support and give him $25,000 for money he says I owe him. We have been divorced for 5.5 years and I his claims are certainly creative and show the distortions in his thinking.
Ummm, he makes $94,000 and my 18 year old daughter will be emancipated in 4 months.