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qwerty2012 posted 12/31/2013 17:02 PM

My BS was on my laptop and found an email and photo of my indiscretions. I scrubbed my computer that the basic searches don't find the emails or photos.
Looks like i missed a photo on iCloud - i deleted it - but i can't seem to find the folder where she found it.
With regard to the email - it's not in my email account - both on my computer or web. She printed it out for me.
I can't find either on the backups either . at least through the basic searches.

Have basic IT skills - google searches yielded nothing.

Any suggestions please?
If none, i am thinking of deleting entire back up and reformatting computer.

SlowUptake posted 12/31/2013 17:57 PM

So your BS found it and you can't?

Why not tell your BS this and ask her to find it again and delete it, if that's what she wants?

This would demonstrate openess & honesty.

Just something to ponder.YMMV.

[This message edited by SlowUptake at 5:59 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)]

Darkness Falls posted 12/31/2013 18:11 PM

Are you afraid of her finding more?

If that's what's behind your question, then I second SlowUptake's suggestion to be open about this with your wife. "BW, I thought I deleted all photos/emails of AP off the computer. Since you found [the email & photo in question], apparently they are still accessible. What would you like me to do about this?" If she wants to use her method to look for more, allow her to do so and then allow her to delete them if she wishes, etc. Or if she prefers you to reformat the computer, do that.

[This message edited by heartbroken0903 at 6:12 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)]

qwerty2012 posted 12/31/2013 20:53 PM

Multiple issues at play
1. My wife thinks i broke NC which i haven't
2. Also thinks i am following/remembering/etc. OW which i am not
3. My wife is currently pretty hurt to work with me to figure it out

SlowUptake posted 12/31/2013 21:47 PM

Multiple issues at play
1. My wife thinks i broke NC which i haven't
2. Also thinks i am following/remembering/etc. OW which i am not
3. My wife is currently pretty hurt to work with me to figure it out

Irrelevant. Focus on the best course of action for your wife, not what feels comfortable to you. Do this on your own and the shit will really hit the fan.

Just something to ponder.YMMV.

qwerty2012 posted 12/31/2013 22:17 PM

Thank you.
I have been transparent and she has full access.
My guess is that she hadn't really looked before and obviously i wasn't thorough enough.

I guess i will just have to be patient now and wait to find out what she wants to do.

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