I'm still perplexed by how our relationship devolved. I was so excited to see my mom and as it turned out, it was not the visit I expected. I flew her and one brother out to spend Christmas with us.
I remember her as loving, polite, warm. (On the phone mostly over the past three years). During our visit, I could hear her muttering under her breath. Why would she do that. For instance, she asked me for salve and then turned around and muttered just loud enough for me to hear "she probably doesn't even know what it is". She would talk to me about stories from her church friends of coffee group and one time she walked away muttering about having to explain things or answer questions. I am sure there were more times.
Honestly, I felt a huge gap. My dad passed 10 years ago and I loved him and felt a tremendous respect for him. Mom...I can't understand this person. Mad at me because cherished younger brother stayed with his favorite cousin? I hope not. Everyone loves him btw, not just Mom.
If you agree this is passive aggressive behaviour, I am struggling to source it. If it is something else, please share. Not used to this at all.
Do I address or just return to cordial long distance relationship?
FYI, have not shared certain personal problems with her plus I tire easily these days as background info. Still.....