Ex-consultant here, so I approached recovery and the task of deciding what I wanted to do as a project with KPIs (key performance indicators).
One of my biggest concerns was whether my W was enough in love with me to be active sexually, so one of my requirements was that she initiate sex sometimes. Your sitch is a little different, but I can see you setting a similar requirement, with perhaps an aspect of his asking your permission.
I know many BSes want their WSes to bring the A up on their own. I'm an outlier in this - I don't think that's a reasonable desire. I just don't see any WS wanting to talk about the A, and I don't think it's necessary. Besides, I wanted to hear what my W said on my schedule, not hers.
Bottom line, what I wanted was honest answers to all my questions when I asked them. It didn't matter to me who brought the subject up.
Remember, tough - YMMV. This is just my experience.