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Morhurt posted 1/3/2014 12:24 PM

After Christmas Eve day being probably the hardest day since DDay (no event, just feelings)... but coming out the other side... I'm seeing some positives.

Here are some of mine:
1. If I feel sad or scared or lonely I can tell my H (this was definitely not the case in the past)
2. Not only does he listen to and discuss my feelings but he WANTS to hear them!
3. I see him actively working to be a better husband
4. I see the effects that our new and improved communication has on our kids (they don't know about the As but I was a mess all summer, for that I hurt)
5. My H now shares his feelings with me and I can see how amazing that is for him
6. The anxiety that I've experienced for years has drastically reduced, after the biggest trauma of my life I actually feel less anxious (over all)
7. I see my H really looking at himself and his FOO stuff and trying to figure it all out

There are more but that's a start.

What about you, what are your positives?

p.s. in no way am I thankful for my H's As, I am seeing positives due to shitloads of hard work on both our parts.

AFrayedKnot posted 1/3/2014 12:55 PM

Thanks for the post
I see all of those as well. The most glaring and moving was #4.

ILINIA posted 1/3/2014 15:55 PM

- I feel he finally sees me and loves who I am unconditionally
- He is living a real life and appreciates it so much more.
- I can finally talk to him about anything including sex.
- We are being a team when it comes to parenting

headdesk posted 1/3/2014 15:59 PM

My WH is doing tremendous work on his own stuff and as a result has been the most content he's been since I met him. He's also doing fantastic with the kids. :)

steadfast1973 posted 1/3/2014 16:14 PM

Yep, all of that.

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