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aero1122 posted 1/3/2014 18:51 PM

I was in the grocery store and came around the corner and saw the OW walking towards me. I wanted to run up and knocked her slutty ass out but I didn't. She turned and walked up an aisle and must have left the store because I didnt see her again. I came home and told my WH and he asked me if I was alright. Are you kidding me? No I am not! It hurt like hell to see her and it brought me right back to d-day. I am crying like crazy and just a mess. I just want this pain to go away

ruby44 posted 1/4/2014 00:14 AM

((Aero))
Everything is so new for you right now and you have no idea what the future holds. Uncertainty adds to your pain so anything will set you off. When he asked if you were ok I hope you told the exact thing you wrote here. The pain will go away but it will take a lot of work. Having the courage to work takes a lot of fortitude.
My WH left after dday so I have no advice regarding what he should be doing. But there are many here that can tell you the steps to takes he what to expect. I just wanted to to know I hear you and I know what anger you are feeling. (((((Aero)))))
Hope tomorrow is better.

whereismylove posted 1/4/2014 00:37 AM

Oh man that sucks. We live in a small town and I'm always worried I'm going to see ow although sometimes I hope I do cause I would love to smack her face!! or say something in front of her fiance since I have yet to find a way to contact him. I hope she looked bad..what a coward leaving the store like that, shame on her! Make your ws draw a nice bath for you, cook you a nice dinner,get a fire going then set up a tent outside for himself to sleep on!

[This message edited by whereismylove at 12:38 AM, January 4th (Saturday)]

slide095 posted 1/4/2014 08:29 AM

I'm so sorry, I DREAD this happening.
You are a saint for not running her down with your cart.

Lalagirl posted 1/6/2014 07:45 AM

((((aero))))

I'm sorry, sweetie. I know all too well about OW "sightings"...

BUT...it DOES get easier! But it takes TIME. I'm glad your H is supporting and comforting you - that's very important.

I am almost six years out (and it took quite awhile for OW to ride off into the sunset - my profile tells more) - but we live in the same area and when I would initially see her, I would panic inside, like I was going to puke. Now, it's only indifference. She knows better than to try to speak to me (we were "friends" at one time) and when the "sighting" occurs, she or I walk the other way.

Funny you said the grocery store, because I just saw xOW there last Sunday. Saw her at the hospital when my granddaughter was in the ER last month (she put her head down and kept walking)...saw her in WalMart a month or so before that...ugh! It was nice when a full three years went by with no sightings, but no such luck lately. But I didn't get that shaky, sick, panicky feeling the last few times.

I'd still like to knock her out like you wanted to - but we both know she's not worth us getting into legal troubles - it would actually likely make them happy. Just walk away with your head held high - then break down later. Trust me, you will begin healing from it.

Big hugs!!!

k94ever posted 1/6/2014 10:57 AM

Sorry you had to go through that.

It sucks.


{{{{{hugs}}}}}

k9

OnlyUpp posted 1/6/2014 14:15 PM

Hugs to you!
I completely know how you feel.
The Slut actually lives down the street from me in our subdivision so I get the pleasure of seeing her very often.
I want to smack her. LOL, luckily I have a lot of restraint.

PRNDL posted 1/9/2014 11:52 AM

Im so sorry. I know the feeling. Its horrible. My WWF's OM lives 7 min from my house. I see him everywhere. When I see him I start to shake. It ruins my day and I dont eat. Still after 9 months.

Im sorry you had to go through this. We are here for you.

inthedark14 posted 1/9/2014 11:59 AM

I thank god that we don't live within 4 hours of the OW, but on the other hand I wish I did so I culd smack her , bcuz yes my WH did have an A but OW was a willing participant too as she knew he was married ,

gutfeeling posted 1/9/2014 19:00 PM

I've seen the @*^#(*^ I'm suspicious of and it seriously makes my blood BOIL and my heart rate goes up really fast. I can't imagine what it would be like for a confirmed OW.

I'm sorry.

scared&stronger posted 1/9/2014 22:47 PM

Sorry you have to deal with that. I almost 7 years out and I had to deal with OW today. Found out she and I are serving on the same health committee in our town. We also attend the same church It does get easier. It will just take time.

scarednbroken posted 1/9/2014 23:48 PM

This is my biggest fear. I do not know what my reaction will be. My WH not only sees hookers regularly, he has one regular OW he sees regularly. She works at the same place as my WH, different building. She knows who I am. She knows what I look like. She knows (actually sees daily) my children. I have never met her, I don't even know what she looks like!! I have a feeling that if I do see her, it will not be pretty for either one of us. Since I have yet to confront him, I am sure she would be very awkward near me. Although our meeting is not likely....

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