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User Topic: That's odd....I need tech savvy advice!
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I may have stumbled onto something. I'm not sure. A few months ago, I want to say in Sept or Oct I was typing in all the letters of the alphabet to see what webaddresses immediately popped up. I am not tech savvy and WH used to delete the history so I thought of whatever I could. Two things sparked my interest. First, LinkedIn popped up as a recognized address. I had no clue what it was before that day. Now the kids use my computer so I thought possibly it could have been one of them. But then Wh got an e-mail from them about adding a Brenda from our area. I made a fake account and searched my husband's name. There was one profile with his name with no pic and no info. I also searched OW's name and again same thing, a profile with no pic or info. I also looked for the other employees and everyone at his job had an account but with pics and info. Okay....so maybe his old company automatically set them up, I don't know. Wh denies ever having such an account. Still, how did it get on the computer???

Also on that day Verizon wireless popped up. We use sprint so that struck me as odd. About a month ago WH was searching the computer and something called moto connect was in the history. He accused me of having a secret phone and claimed I plugged it in. Uh NO! I couldn't explain how it got on the computer and I knew I hadn't plugged any phone in. I figured out whenever you reboot the computer it automatically starts up but it was in stealth mode. Just now I was looking in recent places and Motorola Driver Installation shortcut was there dated 12/4/2013. I looked into what that was and found it had something to do with a Motorola phone. We have an Iphone and his son has a Galaxy so I know it couldn't be from those two phones. So I googled Motorola No-Contract phones and the first thing I found was a Verizon Wireless Motorola Moto G. Hmmmmm.....may explain Wh's paranoia about a secret phone?

Am I wrong? How else would this crap get on MY computer???


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
whiteflower99
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a Verizon Motorola droid. The software installs when you connect your phone to your PC.
Sorry bugt i would start looking for a secret phone.


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel


Posts: 1777 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Greensboro, NC
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The software installs when you connect your phone to your PC.
Yep. Verizon Droid user here.

He accused me of having a secret phone and claimed I plugged it in.
I can't tell you how many times WS accuse their BS of the very thing they're doing.

There's a secret phone.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6434 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's what I thought! Oh grrrr.....

I have been searching for one. The funny thing is 12/4/13 was shortly after he quit working at his last job and brought all his crap from his office home. I was working at that time. It said at 7:58pm and I think I was home by then...I can't remember. I started searching for a secret phone after he mentioned me having one several times because I took it as a projection. I stopped myself because I thought I was being paranoid.

So any ideas where someone would hide one? He once made a comment about taping it under something. *He suggested that is what I did*


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't tell you how many times WS accuse their BS of the very thing they're doing.

I am slowly finding out how very true that is! He is a moron. Ugh!!!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cl131716,
I can't speak to the phone and the computer...but would expect a no contract phone.

As far as linked in. When someone is on linked in, they can send invitations to those on their contact list. An email will come to you asking you to add XXX to your linked in account even if you do not have one. I have a professional one with professional email, but get them to my private email address. I do not have a private account set up and nothing that links the two together. It looks as if I have a private one, but indeed I do not. It looks like you described. Don't put too much into that. Sit back and watch.

You might consider a keylogger....


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1683 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He should be home soon and his kids are here so I don't have time to search tonight. Chances are he has it on him anyways. I guess Monday when he is at work I will do a complete search in the house.

I have no clue where to look! I'm thinking of the places he accused me or "looked for mine"...the attic, the bathroom cabinets, the safe, the car....ugh


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might consider a keylogger....

I tried installing one back in Sept but it wouldn't work properly. Any ideas for a good one?

Okay, so maybe the LinkedIn thing is nothing. I came across the address that one day and since then stuff pops up so I thought maybe it was something.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Lola88
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does he have his own car........if so, it's probably there. My WH generally kept his there or in a box of tools in the garage - switched off off course or on silent. Good luck in your hunting - hugs

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. Look where he accused you of hiding one- then look everywhere else! He'll probably keep it on him, though- maybe taped under a seat in the car?? A VAR is your best bet.

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cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A VAR is your best bet.

Okay, I will have to get one. Sheesh...I guess I should have done all this before! SMH


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For some reason I think he stored in the garage. I got that feeling back when he was accusing me because he kept making a reference to it and that's where he looked for "mine". Plus once he flipped out about someone messing around in there and getting into his safe. I looked in the safe but found nothing. He also got sort of skiddish one day when I started organizing stuff in there...he started helping me.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does he have his own car........
Yes he does. If it's on him he'd leave it in there. I will have to borrow it before he gets a chance to get in there...


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Take2
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't forget he'd have to charge it - so look for a car charger....? or somewhere where there is a plug nearby...


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4166 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah good point!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I find this stupid thing that's it. I'm so done with this crap. Bastard accused me!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Some have reported finding it in the spare tire wheel well...don't forget to look there.

Under the investigative tips would be where I would ask about the best key logger. My husband is too tech savy for me to ever have put one it. So I have no experience. My H would have found it in less than 24 hours....


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1683 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
wanttogoforward
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are many hiding places... I've been on here 4 years and these are some areas I've heard of:

Spare tire area- I'd search that car top to bottom- including under seats and and hidden areas like if you have a van there are sometimes extra storage spaces in armrests, etc.
garage rafters/ attic crawl space- top shelf of garage shelving units- somewhere where you might not be tall enough to reach easily- get a ladder and look
look near any outlets
toolbox
near any tools he uses frequently
under your bed- near hidden outlets
kids rooms- if they are young
bathroom
odd garage areas like in the items that are always near the doorway, areas like the wheelbarrow if you have one there
between the mattress on weekends
under bedroom nightstands
in his clothing pockets- jackets- interior coat pockets that might zip
the basement! So many have found things hidden in the basement where you might never go- look for outlets that might let a charger reach a rafter so he has a place to set it while charging
Basements and garages/vehicles where he might hang out that would not look suspicious should be the first places to check
His office? If he has one....

Hope these help some
top of kitchen cabinets
anywhere near the exit he comes and goes from- drawers, cabinets, baskets, etc.


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The LinkedIn is a suspicious to me. It's a professional networking site but he has no pic and no info? And no, his employer cannot sign him up for one.

The phone will never be far from him if he can help it. Otherwise it will be in a location he feels only he will know about or mess with. I agree with the others, check the car first.
If he was nervous about the garage before then he has probably moved it since then. Now this may be a little manipulative but if the car doesn't yield anything then you could undertake to do a thorough cleaning of the entire house and cars. You know, to get rid of stuff that needs to be thrown away. Except you give him just a small part of that for him to do. Odds are he'll keep the phone in those spots because you would find it in the other locations. Just an idea.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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cl131716
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's an awesome idea Brandon! Thank you! I feel a spring cleaning coming on!

Thank you all for the advice!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
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