There is a list of books at http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/books.asp
there is also a list of helpful reading at http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=318321
Wisdom from Gamine - Make a decision and discipline yourself not to waver. Don't be someone who stands for nothing. Stand for what you decide and back it with the full force of your character and conviction. DECIDE. CHOOSE. COMMIT. PERIOD.