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				    				 Ihtoiltm (original poster  new member #41015)		posted at 6:30 PM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014	
			 
	I can't find a post about book suggestions now so I thought I would make my own. What are the books that have helped you the most?  I am reading "How to help heal your spouse from your affair" and also "Getting the love you want". I have downloaded but not started "His needs, her needs". So far I have gotten the most by far from "how to help heal your spouse from your affair" and I'm wondering if there are others like it that could possibly help me and also help me to help my BH. I am desperately seeking guidance through this.  It's been 8 months and although I feel we've made some progress he is still in limbo dealing with the mind movies and the never ending haunting thoughts of my affair.  I hate what I have done to him, our children, myself and our lives. I have destroyed everything and I will stop at nothing to pick up the pieces of what I have blown up and do anything I can to save my family.  I regret the insane selfish decisions and choices I made. I will not ever be that person again. We have been seeing a therapist but as Uhtred, my BH, brought to light for me it might be time to see someone that specializes in infidelity and marriage counseling. 
 
 
	I will do more starting today. 
 
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				    				HUFI-PUFI ( member #25460)		posted at 6:50 PM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014	
			 
	Hello Ihtoiltm 
 
 
	There is a list of books at http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/books.asp 
 
 
	there is also a list of helpful reading at http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=318321 
 
 
	
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				    				Kelany ( member #34755)		posted at 6:51 PM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014	
			 
	Please toss his needs, her needs.  Harley is horrible. 
 
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