Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
...how uncomfortable my friends get when I bring up the A and how quick they are to sweep the convo under the rug. Just this past New Year's I was quickly hushed by the statement of "Oh, that's in the past" from a female FOTM (accompanied by a very uncomfortable/embarrassed look on her face). That was not the first time it happened (nor the only one of the friends it's happened with).
These are the same people who cut me out of their lives immediately on D-day. They are only friends with me now because XH wanted to R. Don't get me wrong (and if any of them are reading, don't misunderstand): to a certain extent I believe that they care about me for me...but to a larger extent, honestly, I know that if XH and I had never begun R they would never have spoken another word to me and would have been none the worse for it.
So if they all had such a (deservedly and understandably) strong reaction 4 years ago, how come now they just want to pretend it never existed?
Husband: XBS, 40s
Married 2.5 years