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jzkc1502 posted 1/6/2014 07:23 AM

What did you do with your engagement/wedding rings, and what did your spouse do? Did you give them back? Sell them? Save them?

TrustGone posted 1/6/2014 07:32 AM

I threw the cheap ring out the back door. Never did look for it or see it again. I guess it is now buried under the foundation of my new house. If anyone ever finds it they will be very disappointed. Didn't really care what he did with his.

SBB posted 1/6/2014 07:33 AM

I only wore a white gold band. I threw it into the bay about an hour or two into DD.

This reminds me that I still have the engagement diamond earrings somewhere. My plan was to throw them out the window near where we met so I'd associate that place as the place I threw valuable earrings out the window rather than the as the place we met.

I've decided to sell them and donate the proceeds to a local women's support group. Anything I bought with that money would remind me of that M so that is not an option.

ETA the sad clown wore his for weeks. Then decided to take it off and put it on display right at eye level. He was upset that I threw mine away. During False R he kept urging me to get a replacement. I told him his ring triggered me - my own would be worse.

He ended up burying his in a large planter box he painstakingly built in our new home while I watched on heavily pregnant with our first child.

He wanted me there when he did it - I didn't want to be there.

God I was so proud of that stupid thing. Subconsciously it was a symbol of all of my hopes and dreams. I thought of home grown veggies, herbs, flowers. Sharing the experience with his and my child.

Neither of us grew anything in it and it was often full of weeds. Ironic that it turned out to be a symbol of my reality.

I think the new owners have taken it down - good riddance!

[This message edited by SBB at 7:40 AM, January 6th (Monday)]

PhoenixRising88 posted 1/6/2014 07:37 AM

I sold our wedding bands and my engagement ring.

I used the money I got to have a day at the spa getting mani/pedi and massage, and a dinner with one of my best girlfriends.

And then i used the rest of it to cover the filing fee for the divorce papers!!!!!

Amazonia posted 1/6/2014 07:41 AM

Sold them on craigslist and used the money to pay for my first semester of grad school.

No one wanted to buy his the three times I tried to sell it, so when I moved, it went in the trash can. Oh well!

hurtbs posted 1/6/2014 07:57 AM

My ex wanted the ring (the full set)back, so I sold it to him (less than its value but more than I would have gotten at a pawn shop). I don't know what he did with his. He gave it to (then) OW2. I don't know if she kept it or not when they broke it off. I kind of hope so...

mof2 posted 1/6/2014 07:58 AM

Mine is a big diamond surrounded by little diamonds. I am extracting the big diamond to give to my son that he can put in a setting when he proposes to the girl he is going to marry. The rest I am selling.

littlefoggy posted 1/6/2014 08:12 AM

The diamond in my engagement ring is a family heirloom of mine going back several generations. So I am keeping the diamond for DD.

The actual rings will probably get sold.

My engagement ring is a beautiful antique setting. It will be shame to melt it down. Womp womp.

Softcentre posted 1/6/2014 08:26 AM

Mine aren't worth much, but I'm planning on selling them to put it towards the D. I have like no money for a lawyer and it seems apt.

dbellanon posted 1/6/2014 08:28 AM

Still have the wedding band out of sight somewhere. Might sell it eventually. It's not worth a ton. Don't know what XWW did with hers but she's an idiot if she doesn't sell it. I was able to purchase her engagement ring at cost, and it was later appraised at 4 times the amount I paid for it.

There's a part of me that feels entitled to get it back (though of course I never will). I gave it to her as a pledge of a lifelong commitment that she threw away. So she gets to discard the commitment, but keep the pledge? Say you were buying a house and gave a down payment to the seller and then that same person sold the house to someone else, but kept your money. Ridiculous.

There should be a law against cheaters making off with their engagement rings.

Frankly, if I ever get engaged again, there's no way I'm going to be able to get the kind of deal I got on that ring. Better start saving up...

Pass posted 1/6/2014 08:43 AM

I hocked my wedding ring to help me buy a new banjo. Then I wrote a song about it.

I have no idea what The Princess did with hers. She can shove it up her arse.

[This message edited by pass at 8:44 AM, January 6th (Monday)]

IrishLass518 posted 1/6/2014 08:52 AM

I kept all of them. None are worth very much money, I have a thing about not having jewelry that costs more than a car or house payment. I have a total of 5 rings and 5 children. I figured someday they can each have a ring. We have all agreed that the 17 years we were a family was pretty damn good for us and we have fond memories of their father during that time. We choose to remember our family in this way.

Griefstricken25 posted 1/6/2014 09:20 AM

WXH gave his back to me shortly after dday. It took over 4 years to save, but I took the diamond (which I loved!) out of the engagement band and had a very talented goldsmith design and make me a new ring with the diamond and my 3 kids' birthstones. The gold of the rings offset the cost overall. My new family/new beginning ring is simply stunning and I couldn't be happier.

nutmegkitty posted 1/6/2014 09:24 AM

I stole the ex's band from him and sold both his and my band for the gold $$. I had the stone removed (it is a very nice, valuable stone) and am trying to sell it. My jeweler wants me to make a necklace out of it but no way, that stone is poisoned.

damncutekitty posted 1/6/2014 09:26 AM

Mine sat in a drawer fr several years then I decided to sell them at one of those cash for gold places.

7yrsflushed posted 1/6/2014 09:27 AM

I took back the wedding ring and the band from stbxww. Those along with mine are in a box in a drawer. I have no use for them but I am keeping them for the kids. When they are older and ask specific questions I will tell them what happened and give them the option to do what they will with the rings and other items I kept for them. I kept the wedding album, the wedding tape, and various pictures of WW and myself. Most of it is at my parents house because I don't want it but the kids might in the future. They may want a picture of their parents together when they get older. If not they can toss them then along with the rings.

whatdoto posted 1/6/2014 09:27 AM

My wedding ring was stolen by a cleaning lady we had years ago. WH never replaced it. I only wore my thin band since then. But once I decided to D, I cut it off and taped it to the front of our wedding picture that had already been removed from the wall. Left it at the house when I moved out.

I think XWH is still wearing his. huh?

[This message edited by whatdoto at 9:27 AM, January 6th (Monday)]

newlysingle posted 1/6/2014 09:29 AM

I have mine and the Gnat's rings. I plan to sell then at some point, but they're not worth much. I'm hoping it'll pay for some books for school.

jzkc1502 posted 1/6/2014 09:37 AM

Thanks for the input!

WH said we should sell ours and split the $$. But I was wondering if I'm entitled to keep my engagement and wedding bands and sell them and keep the $$ for myself.

soveryweary posted 1/6/2014 09:40 AM

I sold mine for the cash.
He never wore one. Said it was because of his job.
You take YOUR rings and if you choose to sell them, keep the money.