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User Topic: Curious- What did you do with your rings?
jzkc1502
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What did you do with your engagement/wedding rings, and what did your spouse do? Did you give them back? Sell them? Save them?


Me: BS 29
Him: WH 29
Together: 9 years, married 3
DDay: August 2010
OW: Escorts/Craigslist (escorts and strip club on our honeymoon!)
Status: Divorcing. All papers filed, waiting on date.

Posts: 139 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: NJ
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I threw the cheap ring out the back door. Never did look for it or see it again. I guess it is now buried under the foundation of my new house. If anyone ever finds it they will be very disappointed. Didn't really care what he did with his.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I only wore a white gold band. I threw it into the bay about an hour or two into DD.

This reminds me that I still have the engagement diamond earrings somewhere. My plan was to throw them out the window near where we met so I'd associate that place as the place I threw valuable earrings out the window rather than the as the place we met.

I've decided to sell them and donate the proceeds to a local women's support group. Anything I bought with that money would remind me of that M so that is not an option.

ETA the sad clown wore his for weeks. Then decided to take it off and put it on display right at eye level. He was upset that I threw mine away. During False R he kept urging me to get a replacement. I told him his ring triggered me - my own would be worse.

He ended up burying his in a large planter box he painstakingly built in our new home while I watched on heavily pregnant with our first child.

He wanted me there when he did it - I didn't want to be there.

God I was so proud of that stupid thing. Subconsciously it was a symbol of all of my hopes and dreams. I thought of home grown veggies, herbs, flowers. Sharing the experience with his and my child.

Neither of us grew anything in it and it was often full of weeds. Ironic that it turned out to be a symbol of my reality.

I think the new owners have taken it down - good riddance!

[This message edited by SBB at 7:40 AM, January 6th (Monday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5656 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sold our wedding bands and my engagement ring.

I used the money I got to have a day at the spa getting mani/pedi and massage, and a dinner with one of my best girlfriends.

And then i used the rest of it to cover the filing fee for the divorce papers!!!!!


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 434 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sold them on craigslist and used the money to pay for my first semester of grad school.

No one wanted to buy his the three times I tried to sell it, so when I moved, it went in the trash can. Oh well!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13859 | Registered: Jul 2011
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex wanted the ring (the full set)back, so I sold it to him (less than its value but more than I would have gotten at a pawn shop). I don't know what he did with his. He gave it to (then) OW2. I don't know if she kept it or not when they broke it off. I kind of hope so...


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
mof2
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is a big diamond surrounded by little diamonds. I am extracting the big diamond to give to my son that he can put in a setting when he proposes to the girl he is going to marry. The rest I am selling.


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The diamond in my engagement ring is a family heirloom of mine going back several generations. So I am keeping the diamond for DD.

The actual rings will probably get sold.

My engagement ring is a beautiful antique setting. It will be shame to melt it down. Womp womp.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 498 | Registered: Nov 2013
Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine aren't worth much, but I'm planning on selling them to put it towards the D. I have like no money for a lawyer and it seems apt.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1097 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
dbellanon
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still have the wedding band out of sight somewhere. Might sell it eventually. It's not worth a ton. Don't know what XWW did with hers but she's an idiot if she doesn't sell it. I was able to purchase her engagement ring at cost, and it was later appraised at 4 times the amount I paid for it.

There's a part of me that feels entitled to get it back (though of course I never will). I gave it to her as a pledge of a lifelong commitment that she threw away. So she gets to discard the commitment, but keep the pledge? Say you were buying a house and gave a down payment to the seller and then that same person sold the house to someone else, but kept your money. Ridiculous.

There should be a law against cheaters making off with their engagement rings.

Frankly, if I ever get engaged again, there's no way I'm going to be able to get the kind of deal I got on that ring. Better start saving up...


ME: BH, 28
Her: WW, 27
DD: 4
Married 6 Years.
DDay: Early May, 2013
Divorced

Posts: 238 | Registered: May 2013
Pass
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hocked my wedding ring to help me buy a new banjo. Then I wrote a song about it.

I have no idea what The Princess did with hers. She can shove it up her arse.

[This message edited by pass at 8:44 AM, January 6th (Monday)]


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I kept all of them. None are worth very much money, I have a thing about not having jewelry that costs more than a car or house payment. I have a total of 5 rings and 5 children. I figured someday they can each have a ring. We have all agreed that the 17 years we were a family was pretty damn good for us and we have fond memories of their father during that time. We choose to remember our family in this way.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1800 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WXH gave his back to me shortly after dday. It took over 4 years to save, but I took the diamond (which I loved!) out of the engagement band and had a very talented goldsmith design and make me a new ring with the diamond and my 3 kids' birthstones. The gold of the rings offset the cost overall. My new family/new beginning ring is simply stunning and I couldn't be happier.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2529 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I stole the ex's band from him and sold both his and my band for the gold $$. I had the stone removed (it is a very nice, valuable stone) and am trying to sell it. My jeweler wants me to make a necklace out of it but no way, that stone is poisoned.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2611 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine sat in a drawer fr several years then I decided to sell them at one of those cash for gold places.


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49482 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took back the wedding ring and the band from stbxww. Those along with mine are in a box in a drawer. I have no use for them but I am keeping them for the kids. When they are older and ask specific questions I will tell them what happened and give them the option to do what they will with the rings and other items I kept for them. I kept the wedding album, the wedding tape, and various pictures of WW and myself. Most of it is at my parents house because I don't want it but the kids might in the future. They may want a picture of their parents together when they get older. If not they can toss them then along with the rings.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 1923 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
whatdoto
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wedding ring was stolen by a cleaning lady we had years ago. WH never replaced it. I only wore my thin band since then. But once I decided to D, I cut it off and taped it to the front of our wedding picture that had already been removed from the wall. Left it at the house when I moved out.

I think XWH is still wearing his. huh?

[This message edited by whatdoto at 9:27 AM, January 6th (Monday)]


"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

Posts: 1187 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Texas
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have mine and the Gnat's rings. I plan to sell then at some point, but they're not worth much. I'm hoping it'll pay for some books for school.


BW - Me (38)
XWH -The Gnat
OW - Hello Kitty the Whore Engaged to the Gnat. I hear the white trash, wedding bells as we speak.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (7), 1 DS (2)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 958 | Registered: Mar 2013
jzkc1502
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the input!

WH said we should sell ours and split the $$. But I was wondering if I'm entitled to keep my engagement and wedding bands and sell them and keep the $$ for myself.


Me: BS 29
Him: WH 29
Together: 9 years, married 3
DDay: August 2010
OW: Escorts/Craigslist (escorts and strip club on our honeymoon!)
Status: Divorcing. All papers filed, waiting on date.

Posts: 139 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: NJ
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sold mine for the cash.
He never wore one. Said it was because of his job.
You take YOUR rings and if you choose to sell them, keep the money.


Divorced 1/3/14

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