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Some guys get all the breaks. I feel like I have given my serial cheating husband so many second chances. Now he gets another try at reconciliation. He kinda screwed up the last time.
So when he asks me, in all seriousness, what do I want from him....how do I answer?
I want to be mad! I am mad! I am hurt. I feel stupid. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me!
He asks " what is different today ( morning after the ugly truth finally open).,from last week? It was all over 18 months ago. I love you and only you. I need you and only you.
I had an attentive husband these last 18 months. I want to see remorse. I want him to demonstrate he understands and takes full responsibility for the pain he has caused. Yeah, I want him to grovel. I want him to beg
I want assurance that he loves me.
I don't want to be right back here on 2 years

I asked my BS to make a list of what he needs from a wife (me).i did this so I know what his expectations are. I know what I need from a husband (him) and don't have an issue telling him. Sometimes writing it down and being able to read it later always can keep you on the right path.

I want my wh to grovel and beg too, but that's just never going to happen. He is not like that and will never do it. If he is truly remorseful and wants R, have him be more considerate. If your wh is anything like mine, groveling is just never going to happen

He asks " what is different today ( morning after the ugly truth finally open).,from last week? It was all over 18 months ago

What is the difference? Last week, I thought that the husband who I loved dearly was a honest, honorable, truthful partner to me. Today, I find out that the person who I thought of, so highly, is dishonorable, a liar, and a betrayer. Today I know that while professing his love to me, he was holding a dirty secret about infidelity to me. Today I know that he thought so little of my life, that he put it at risk by screwing someone else. Today I know that for the last 18 months, when I thought that my husband had "gotten it," was putting his heart and soul into our marriage and into our union, was being open, honest, and respectful of me, he was lying to me every second that he hid the truth from me. You just wasted 18 months of my life, further, you just shat upon it because it was all a fantasy of hope.

You gave me hope of truthfulness and then took it away by your lies. What do I want from you? I want utter and complete truth from you. I want utter and complete fidelity from you. I want you to treat me with the respect DUE to me as your wife, a human being, and a child of God. I want you to step up and be a man, not a man-child. Or I want you out of my life.

Try the above on for size and take in/let out as needed, if you think it can be of any help to you. (((hugs)))