Megs56,
I understand you are addressing the PORN issue....
But after reading your profile, and many of your posts: I truly believe your issues with this BF/Man you are involved with - really spans a lot more than simply his Porn Addiction.
Since the very beginning of your relationship with him - Your cheating BF has never been honest with you: You have been dealing with his Dishonesty...his ongoing LIES...and his ongoing cheating with other women from the get-go.
Not only has he continued to have VERY INAPPROPRIATE relationships with Other Women (who for some reason you continually refer to as "girls")...Any time you have confronted him about these women, and his sexual encounters with them: He lies, and lies and lies - until you CONFRONT HIM WITH the truth and evidence you have uncovered regarding his infidelity, including: TEXTS, NUDE PHOTOS, MESSAGES, etc...
THEN, your BF lies again: Promising to stop all contact with the woman...and to stop all inappropriate behaviors with her. YET, you "catch" him again engaging in INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR with the same woman later on.
This is a "pattern" with the BF that has never stopped.
You have the "evidence"....
The folders of naked girls, pictures, videos. The AFF account. The various PORN Sites.
You have access to the Nover account to read the messages between your boyfriend and OW.
Yes - your BF agreed to attend Couples Counseling; BUT he was continuing his inappropriate affair relationship with the OW behind your back; while attending Couples Counseling with you. You read the messages between him and the OW while you were attending Couples Counseling - you have the "evidence." He has not changed.
Even when confronted: Your BF continued to LIE until you demanded that he "sign onto the Porn Site" and allow you to view what he is watching. THEN - he "confessed" and showed remorse. But, only after you "caught him."
It's critically important that your BF refuses to see Individual Counseling. You need to ask yourself: WHY DOES HE REFUSE?
I'd suggest: Your BF's Porn Addiction is just ONE of his major issues/problems. It does appear PORN is a serious problem...especially since it has escalated to him wanting/needing "live interactive porn"...and to him preferring PORN over actual sexual intercourse with you - a woman he says he loves.
--He has serious issues with being a habitual LIAR.
--He also has serious issues with FIDELITY.
From your posts - he has been involved with "another woman" since the beginning, and throughout his relationship with you.
AND - he has LIED and LIED and LIED to you about his relationship/involvement with these women.
I truly hope you will use your Individual Therapy to concentrate on yourself - and what's in your best interests.
Your concentration on this man - and you trying to "meet his needs/wants" does not appear to be in the best interests of your personal, mental, and emotional well-being... in my opinion.
It appears obvious: This man has not ended his relationship with this OW. He has not stopped engaging in his daily Porn activities. He has not stopped LYING to you.
I'm sincerely sorry for the pain and turmoil you're going through -and I wish you the very best.