WH has always placed health issues at the bottom of the list financially, putting everything including personal pleasure first. Several years ago I decided if that's what he wants for himself fine, but no more putting off my medical needs.
I feel he should seek IC, but he says I need to take care of my issues first. History of depression prior his A, A issues, lack of personal direction, etc.
Money is a concern & he is willing to seek out a free support group for some of his issues.
But when tax refunds get here he already has plans on how some of it should be spent. It's on something that has always been a dividing point between us. I'm very hurt by this, thinking if we were important enough he would skip that this year and invest in us.
I just don't know how to make him understand my point of view. (or maybe he understands and just chooses to disagree)