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User Topic: 1 month since d-day
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Member # 41575
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1 month since my life imploded around me. My WH has been remorseful and is in counseling and being transparent with everything. I have cried every day since I found out. The holidays kept my mind busy and now that there over I can't help but think about it constantly! Every song I hear on the radio or if I see a love scene on tv, I just can't control myself and start crying. Too many triggers. I just hate this so much. Why did he have to be such a selfish jerk!

Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R

I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!

Posts: 108 | Registered: Dec 2013
♂ 40392
Member # 40392
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can feel your pain friend. I'm 8 months out and still a total wreck. Infidelity is a bitch and I don't wish it on my worst enemy ( maybe a few) just saying. Keep yourself as healthy as possible. Your in good company and lots of good advice here. Sending positive thoughts your way.

Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 648 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
♀ 30396
Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The pain is pretty overwhelming. I actually quit listening to music It has made me angry to get rid of it, however, in the long run it was less painful. I also was very careful with the movies and TV shows I watched. I avoided love scenes, breakups, A's or anything that would be a trigger.

I will say my house was pretty clean. I actively worked to keep my triggers as few as I could. It doesn't prevent them, however it can help decrease them.

Hugs to you.

Me-54 BS
Him 61-WS
Married 34 yrs, together 37
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1962 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
♀ 41181
Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry to hear this, and you are in good company here. Keep posting and read the Healing Library. Are you in IC? ((aero1122))

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
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Member # 42138
Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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