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aero1122 (original poster member #41575) posted at 2:40 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
1 month since my life imploded around me. My WH has been remorseful and is in counseling and being transparent with everything. I have cried every day since I found out. The holidays kept my mind busy and now that there over I can't help but think about it constantly! Every song I hear on the radio or if I see a love scene on tv, I just can't control myself and start crying. Too many triggers. I just hate this so much. Why did he have to be such a selfish jerk!
Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!
Uhtred ( member #40392) posted at 2:58 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
I can feel your pain friend. I'm 8 months out and still a total wreck. Infidelity is a bitch and I don't wish it on my worst enemy ( maybe a few) just saying. Keep yourself as healthy as possible. Your in good company and lots of good advice here. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Me: BH 38years old DDay 4-29-13Her: FWW 39
brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 3:03 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
The pain is pretty overwhelming. I actually quit listening to music It has made me angry to get rid of it, however, in the long run it was less painful. I also was very careful with the movies and TV shows I watched. I avoided love scenes, breakups, A's or anything that would be a trigger.
I will say my house was pretty clean. I actively worked to keep my triggers as few as I could. It doesn't prevent them, however it can help decrease them.
Hugs to you.
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 4:15 AM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014
Sorry to hear this, and you are in good company here. Keep posting and read the Healing Library. Are you in IC? ((aero1122))
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
Slayer ( new member #42138) posted at 4:38 AM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
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