Ehh…I think it is a stage of healing somehow. I get asked out a lot, via OLD, and go on a lot of dates…but nothing has really worked, or no one turns MY head. I kinda have to force myself to date.
Something about putting yourself out there is scary. Protecting ourselves from the possibility of future pain is waaaay easier than investing in a relationship.
I'm 43, S for 3 years, d-day was when I was 39. I used to think I'd be married and happy now (close to 4 years post d-day), but I think I've kinda given up on ever being in a relationship again. If someone takes me by surprise, then so be it.
Im not really looking any more. I'm accepting dates, but Im kinda going in with "Well, I wonder what the hell his 'problem' is…". I don't want to have to deal with someone else's "problems".
Maybe I"m just rambling, but a lot of us hit the "plain of lethal flatness" at one point or another, many of us multiple times over. I think it is normal, I just don't know what it means.