"The most expensive thing in th world is TRUST, it takes years to earn and just a matter of seconds to lose"
I'm so sorry for the intense pain you are going thorough. I do understand.
I hope you can see a counselor to help you during this terrible time -- my counselor helped me so much.
I'm sending you hugs and support.
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.
Having said that, I think it's a great sign that your WH comforted you in this way. It sounds like such a genuine moment. There are lots of stories on here about waywards who are able to fake remorse, but this seems pretty real to me. This kind of empathy... It's a wonderful sign. My WH, who is pretty much a model WH, has yet to cry like this. Honestly, I'd love to see that.
Stay strong and keep posting!
but im still not getting answers cuz in HIS mind he still thinks he is "protecting my feelings" ,and i do believe he THINKS thats best but im also smart enuf 2 kno hes protecting his own a$$
There are lots of stories on here about waywards who are able to fake remorse, but this seems pretty real to me.
It's very very hard to know whether WSs are showing true remorse. It's reasonable to expect them to fail/relapse a few times (not by interaction with the AP -- that's completely forbidden and not what I mean! I mean by not being the perfect remorseful partner, by falling into wayward/self-centered thinking.) And to take their own time to come out of the fog. My WH did something very hurtful about 4 months in (didn't provide me with emotional support when I needed it.) At the time he really didn't "get" what he did wrong. Over a year later, he totally gets it, and should a similar thing pop up, I *think* he'd react totally differently.
So I'm saying it's a journey for the wayward as much as it is for the BS (hopefully) and it's very, very hard to know whether they're just putting on an act or whether it's real. That is why attempting R is such a gamble and takes such courage. (Deciding to split is equally courageous -- these are ALL hard choices.) There are some very good fakers out there. And even those of us who are somewhat down the road of this still have deep moments of doubt when we wonder whether we're just refusing to face a hard truth about our partners.
Bottom line, it's a shit sandwich. Here's hoping Mr ITD is for real!