Just wondering how many of you out there, know the OW or have seen or spoke to her?
My H had various 'encounters' with other women online in chat rooms, these don't bother me (well, they do but I have no need to see what they looked like or know them) her got friendly with one who used to go on her webcam and touch herself while he watched.
The night I found out, i messaged this woman and asked her what was going on with her and my husband.
It turns out (my H told me) that he lied to her too, told her he was 24 and was single, living a student life at Uni!
I know this woman's name, but that's all!
She was 44 years old, so actually thought she was stripping for a man 20 years younger!
When I messaged her, I told her he was married and 44 with children, asked her what had been going on (at the time of messaging her, I did not know she stripped as my H told me they were 'just friends')
When I tried to contact her the following morning after I found out about the tripping and cybesex, she had deleted her email address so I had no way of contacting her again. I tried contacting her email address via my other email account, thinking she may have blocked my H email, but no, she has deleted the whole thing.
This woman lived in NY - that's all I know! We live in the UK so I know they never met!
I have searched for her online but there are a number of women with the same name and its impossible to track her down.
She told my H what she did for a living (if it was true) and the woman I can find on the internet who does the same job (Real Estate) with the same name and he says that its most definitely is not the woman he was watching. (i can believe him as this woman looks respectably and a lot older than he said/she said she was/is)So I have a feeling she lied about her job/name ... how do I find out?
The OW he was having an online 'thing' with, he purchased a secret pay as you go mobile phone (so no phone records) to text and talk to her. This woman I didn't know about until last October 2013 when he admitted about her. She lived in the UK, but a plane ride or ferry away, so again no meeting. Again, I have searched online for this woman to no avail! She was 55, single and going thru a divorce! My H didn't lie to this one, told her all along he was married with kids. So she is the one that i'm really hung up on. This woman really bothers me.
My H told me he threw the phone and snapped the sim card Dec 2012. He didn't even tell this OW that he wouldn't be contacting her again. said he 'saw the light' sat in the car park after texting her and realised what he was doing, and threw it in the car park bin! So as far as she knows, he could be dead!!!! He doesn't remember her number, had typed it in the phone once to log it, and never looked at it, just dialled her name.
So ... I will NEVER ever find these women, or ever be able to see what they looked like, just have my H description of them!
I'm finding this extremely hard to deal with, is that normal? I just want to see what they look like ... I really feel that knowing that, will help me with my closure!
I believe my H when he says he doesn't remember her number, jezze he doesn't know my mobile and I have the same one since we got together 14 years ago lol!
I find myself some days, just typing in her name again and again to Google, but nothing new comes up, just the same crap I've scrutinised over a thousand times!