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User Topic: I asked him to move out now what?
spectacularsoul
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He said he was sorry. He was helping around the house in ways he never has. He was calling and texting all day. However, I just didn't think he really got the gravity of what he had done. He had not started any IC and says he wants to do that before MC. He still works with her everyday. He really does not have the freedom to fire her, he has several partners. And I have asked to make the circle of people who know as possible. He suggests that he finds new employment and that we move. But because I have not seen any real action I asked him to leave. He has been calling a lot and telling me he loves me. Then says I don't deserve him. Blah blah.
Ultimately I would like to R. He says he would like to R.
I have read the 180 and have been trying to apply it. The question I have is that I can tell by the way he is conversing with me that he is looking for reassurance from me!!!???? Seriously? He wants me to say I love you. Anyway, do I just respond with, "I know this is really rough." Or what? He has only been out if the house two nights. How long do I require this? I do want to reconcile, because I think if we both work at it this could actually be better than ever. It's just that he has been such a total ass for such a long time that I don't remember ever loving him, or know if I ever can again.
Another question, he has been very vague about what actually happened how, when, etc. I got ahold of his credit card statement and have put the pieces together. As far as I can tell it has been going on two years and has only ended (or so he says) because I caught him. So the question is, how much detail do I need to know to move on? What little I know is ripping me up, will knowing more help me heal or is it just picking a scab? Of course he says it's not good to know , but we all know that's because it will be uncomfortable for him to fess it all up.
The emotional side of me wants to go to her house and bust some windows. No really what I want to do is take a steel bat to his Beemer! Then I want to walk into his office and rip that bitch out of her chair by her ponytail, chuck her on the ground and give her a nice pile drive to the face. Then march up to him and break his nose in front of the entire office. Oh how good would that feel!!!!! But that is just my fantasy!

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Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The emotional side of me wants to go to her house and bust some windows. No really what I want to do is take a steel bat to his Beemer! Then I want to walk into his office and rip that bitch out of her chair by her ponytail, chuck her on the ground and give her a nice pile drive to the face. Then march up to him and break his nose in front of the entire office. Oh how good would that feel!!!!! But that is just my fantasy!

OH MAN, I LOVE THIS^^^^...If Only!!!

That would be great!... but then you would go to jail.

And you know what, now that you have written it out, let it go. That cheap skank is not worth your time or head space.

Like another poster had said, "That whore is like dogshit, scrape her off the bottom of your shoe and keep walking!"

The best revenge would be to show up at this job, dressed to the nines. Strut up to your WH...he will gleefully greet you a gentle embrace and a sparkle in his eye. He will whisk you off to a late lunch at a swanky restaurant. Make sure he says the name of the restaurant loud enough for that lowly, dogshit whore to hear.

HE is YOUR husband. HE should be not ashamed to show his love for you in public.

Skanky-whorester never had that, sneaking around in darkness, humping in the gutter, is all she will ever merit.

Remember that, you are not the winner, your are the prize!

Strength and Peace to you in the coming days as you work through this betrayal.


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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spectacularsoul
41904
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@getting happy
"That whore is like dogshit, scrape her off the bottom of your shoe and keep walking!"

Remember that, you are not the winner, your are the prize!

Ok I love these👆👆👆

(Sorry I don't really know how to tag people or copy quotes yet.)


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