At first, I honestly didn't know. I don't want another person to have to walk through this hell. BUT, here's what I think...please let me know your thoughts.
His friend needs to tell his wife what happened. Yes he could get away with it, but nothing changes (not to mention all the risks). If he doesn't tell her, even if he gets away with it nothing changes...he likely continues his selfish risky behavior and they stay unhappy with each other. They may be able to work through it, but she deserves to be part of that decision.
Any thoughts. - WS comments welcome.
When the "friend" tells his wife I would open up the lines of communication and direct her right here....
If the friend says he won't tell his wife....well,then I would. She needs to be tested for STD's at the very least and she should be able to live her own truth.
(((hugs))) it sucks
If he is regretful, he should definitely tell. I am in the exact same position as he is (i.e., married with kids).
I had my issues, and I confessed to my wife - albeit with TT.
I never told my friends about what happened, so there is no risk there, but I just couldn't hold it in.
There are those on here who will tell you that they don't have to tell. I don't disagree with them - each situation is unique and different, but given my situation, I will ALWAYS recommend telling the truth.
Even if it's telling the truth about something shitty, you're already becoming a better person by owning it and not hiding anymore.
"The truth shall set you free, but first it will make you miserable."
D-Day, June 10, 2012