Suddenly, she stopped returning my calls, texts, FB messages , and any other attempted contact. I had a feeling. Well it was confirmed. I contacted her husband and he made her call me. She told me everything. OM was sooo romantic.. She was swept off her feet. She was being neglected in the marriage.. No affection.. You all know the script.She says she's working on the marriage, but she is still in contact with OM. They are coming to visit this weekend. I would like to speak to her husband.. Not sure if it's my place, but they both were there for me in my situation. Talked to me, sat with me, he even changed the locks for me lol..Just want to tell him the things that I have learned from my situation and from the folks here on SI. I have already told her she needs to be NO CONTACT , but according to her he is their attorney and they have some legal needs he is helping them with.. I have no idea how he could allow this and stick around. Maybe I should just share the SI website with him. I may not have to worry about it because my WS might get to them first.
I understand what you are feeling. A close couple we know has experienced at least an EA by her husbands doing.
A are cheap.....dime a dozen.....if you read stats on this at all. 1 in 3 M have infidelity affect them.
Caution: opposite sex BS comfort in real life is dangerous. I think quick but shallow emotional bonding would stand a high chance if occurring.
I am really sorry to hear about this. Particularly shocking given the "intimate view" his wife has had of adultery. Reckon it was going on before your DD?
No matter. Not yours to figure out.
It is something..... How people choosing adultery think theirs is unique.....that their sitch is special....the one that is NOT written about over and over.
If course, upon my DD, I thought what I was feeling was unique too.
God help us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 9:41 PM, January 9th (Thursday)]
Last time I looked..... They were almost as prevalent as lawyers.
Excuses and twisted realities...
Yes, some much of this this is so typical it's almost shocking how anyone profess's to have a "unique sitch".
Peace.
I believe you should be there for your friends.
I would sit down with them both, tell them you know where they are, how they feel and ask how you can help.
I would let your friend know you intend on supporting her BS and I would do just that.
Caution: opposite sex BS comfort in real life is dangerous. I think quick but shallow emotional bonding would stand a high chance if occurring
I don't see this as an issue if you are both clear on boundaries. I have supported a male BS before, I would never take advantage of their pain.
I would also share SI with the BS first, let him know what it is and how it has helped you.
I don't think I would share my user name with him though, IMO that's too close for comfort
Ultimately you give what you can without having any negative impact on you.
