My fwh just phoned. He wants to invite his best friend and his wife to come camping with us in December 2014. So what is wrong with that you may ask?
His friend, B, met his wife, C, through my husband, A. A and C met each other online via another mutual friend and hit it of VERY well. This was in 2008. They used to chat constantly...she even started phoning him over weekends...
Everytime I entered the room, A would close the laptop or log off the chat site. I found an sms from C on his phone one day..."what is wrong...why aren't you online yet?". This upset me terribly. I was on maternity leave at that time. I told him that I don't like their friendship and he told me I was paranoid. He made me believe I had post natal depression. Even went to a psychologist for treatment.
By March 2008, I begged him to end the friendship...said I didn't trust her intentions. He reacted by yelling..."Do you honestly think I would throw away our marriage of 4 yrs, our relationship of 11 yrs, our family...for someone else? If you can think that of me, YOU must be busy behind my back and now you have a guilty conscience!" I cried hysterically. ..he made me feel so bad for asking that I landed up apologising to him!
The irony is that, as I found out in 2012, he had in fact already cheated on me by having a ONS with my best friend since primary school...while I was pregnant!
I don't know what would have happened between A and C if B didn't start a relationship with her. Point is...I classify this as an EA. My fwh thinks it wasn't that bad. Putting on a polite happy face when I see her at a social gathering is obe thing, but expecting me to camp with her for 10 days is another!
Am I being rediculous? How should I handle this?