(Background story)
Some of you may have read my past threads about my lying, manipulative, narcissistic MIL, who criticized/demeaned/ & used me from the first day I met her, & seemed to control WH. She caused immeasurable damage to WH, my self esteem, & our M. She herself is an unremorseful WW & OW.
During & after WH's A, she enabled him & told him that he was entitled to do whatever made him happy, & blamed me for his A (that I wasn't giving him what he needed, so he had to go elsewhere, etc.)
I entered our M weak, having been cheated on in my first M (which ended it), & having lost my own Mom when I was a child to cancer.
Up until Dday, I tried to be a good DIL. Since Dday, & her atrocious behavior on that day & while we were separated, I have had NC with MIL (altho WH & our kids still do).
(This week)
WH has finally located (thanks to my now incredibly sophisticated detective skills) & spoken with his long lost stepsisters, who he so loved as a child, & has found out the truth about his mother----what she did to those girls (who were ages 2, 3, & 8 years old at that time) when she ran off with their father, destroying 2 families. WH’s stepfather abandoned his children. MIL cut them off, & then lied to them, WH, & his stepfather---saying to each that the other no longer wanted to be in touch.
In addition to preventing any relationship between them while he was alive, when WH’s stepfather died, she never even contacted his girls to tell them that their father had passed. They found out, incidentally, years later.
From the moment MIL took up with WH's stepfather, those girls did not receive 1 more penny from him /ended up having to move with their betrayed mother into a slum/grew up in poverty----& a whole lot more.
Now, finally, WH has the whole story.
I am now convinced that my MIL is sociopathic.
I have suspected all along that my MIL is truly evil---only cared about herself, nobody else. Should have followed my gut feeling from the start.
WH finally sees who she is, & is appalled. His mind is blown! He is no longer brainwashed by her.
For the first time in 25 years, it is just the 2 of us in our marriage. Hopefully, she can no longer hurt our M. Hopefully, WH will start to understand how this FOO history affected him.
OW/WW MIL has been exposed,
& that is justice.
Thank you to everyone on this site who has helped me figure this out & supported me. You have no idea how much I appreciate it.