Married 26 years
I'm going through the same thing only I'm using a lawyer. Getting all the pension plan statements has been a nightmare since they are being mailed to him. He's a big procrastinator so I know filling out his forms won't be done until it's ordered by the court. That means my attorney needs to file those orders and more money has to be paid. We've already paid 10k retainer and I want that to last as long as possible. So I'm filling out his paperwork for him. He's a whiney, big ass baby who has complained for the last 25 years about how hard he works. Acts like he's the only man on the planet who works hard. The facts are he's disorganized, a poor communicator, a procrastinator and doesn't know how to delegate or mentor his staff. Honestly...I don't know how he's done as well in his profession as he has.
Actually, I do know....because he's had me to take care of every other aspect of his personal life. All the man has had to do for himself in the past 25 years is go to work. I did everything else, except wipe his butt, for him.
Looking back, I now see the guy was looking for a mama (me) to take care of him and skanks (the OWs) to play with.
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014
It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.