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cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 6:19 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I found imlive on the phone in the web browser history. It's a sex chat/webcam site. As well as youporn but I'm not sure how long ago either were accessed. I knew about the porn but he promised he never did chats or webcams. Yuck.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 6:29 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
The live chats sometimes pop up automatically usually after you click on a video. Are you ok with watching porn?
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 6:39 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
That's what I thought too but we have a popup blocker plus it showed 17.3KB of usage (?) in the website data. I'm not sure...
I used to be okay with porn but now it's no longer allowed since he was having issues with excessive use.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 6:47 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Double post.
[This message edited by UpInTheAirNow at 12:48 PM, January 10th (Friday)]
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 6:47 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I too have pop up blocker but it still pops up anyway. Why not just ask. It might be something old and not recient.
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
Kibou ( new member #41996) posted at 6:52 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
To be fair, 12.3KB is very small. I haven't known chats to start up automatically at porn sites, but it's possible. Maybe you should see for yourself if it does. This person does not sound trustworthy. Did you know about his issues before you married?
Me: BGF
Him: WBF
OW: coworker
D-Day: 11/23/13
Proposed: 1/1/14, now engaged
one2ndchance ( member #14759) posted at 6:53 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
but he promised he never did chats or webcams.
He also promised fidelity on your wedding day.
i used to be ok with porn, but it seems like too many viewers of porn become desensitized to it over time. They then look to up the experience by increasing the types of porn, or wanting more real interaction (via chats) and then progressing to wanting actual sexual involvement. Studies have shown how porn affects the brain and the responses show similarity to other forms of addiction.
Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014
It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 7:06 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Kibou- it's at the top of the list for usage but maybe I'm reading it wrong. I don't know. I tried going to some of the pornsites and nothing popped up but it's possible. I do plan on asking him when he gets home.
And I knew he watched porn when we started dating, I didn't know he was into sex chats which is basically the form of infidelity I am dealing with only it was with people he knew IRL.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 7:09 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Onesecondchance- Yes! That's pretty much what I'm dealing with although I don't think he ever went physical other than a peck. I have no evidence of him ever having a PA although there were situations where it could have taken place.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
Whalers11 ( member #27544) posted at 7:10 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
If it helps... I just checked my browser history because I visit YouPorn from time to time
and there are no web addresses that I don't recognize in my history, and I do get those annoying pop-ups.
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 7:13 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Okay Facebook, google, and yahoo were at the top of the list ranging from 300-700 KB which makes sense because I use them a lot. He rarely accesses this phone, it's usually with me. I've never looked up porn on here, however!
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 7:34 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I guess all I can do is ask.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 8:02 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I tried an experiment. I took a screenshot first so I had proof and then I deleted the website data for that site. I went to the website for only a second and then checked the website data. It was only .3 KB. So much for it being a popup.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 8:25 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
My h looked the "live cams", but never chatted. You have to pay to chat. (And, also most of the girls on the cams are not who is chatting, lol... The people chatting are sitting being a desk in a call center environment in india...) and it's usually not live, unless you pay a fee too...
Also, if he even clicked on a video, it would be way higher than 17.kb... My h usually just looked on the main screen with the animated gif links... It's really all you need, he said.
[This message edited by steadfast1973 at 2:28 PM, January 10th (Friday)]
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 8:32 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Steadfast- that is too funny! I should tell him that. I spoke to him a min ago and asked about it but he swears he didn't know what if was. Could be a popup thing I suppose. He admitted to watching youporn however but it was before he swore it off. I guess it's not a big deal. I told him I wouldn't be mad just wanted to know.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 10:46 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
But. I did get a web cam popup looking at the hustler shopping site for some "marital aids". As well as a pop up for backpage. (The "craigslist for hookers".)
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 10:58 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Ugh this still isn't sitting right with me. I looked again and two sites I frequent only had 12 KB. I know I was on those sites quite a bit! Also, sites I searched, read a few pages, and left are more around the .4 KB. I'm not tech savvy so I really don't know what that means. I may be overanalyzing but for some reason it doesn't feel right.
Yeah I do remember getting popup banners, steadfast. Never porn related though unless I am on a porn site.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 11:00 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
I wanted to mention there was an m before the web address which stands for mobile. Not sure if that means anything.
I am thinking he did just look because I watched a short clip and it went up to 1.3
Still why would he lie? He admitted to looking at ypmate once and it's the same thing!
[This message edited by cl131716 at 5:09 PM, January 10th (Friday)]
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 11:12 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Yeah, I don't get pop ups on the computer, but on my ipad, I do.
My h's 4g data was like 2,000,000, watching porn. Streaming Videos use a lot of data.
[This message edited by steadfast1973 at 5:14 PM, January 10th (Friday)]
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
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