My husband and I have been together 11 years. We have 2 children together, aged 10 & 6.
On the 20th November 2013 my world came crashing down.
I found photo's in my husbands email account.
On May 22nd 2007.. I was 5 months pregnant with our baby. I was at work & he was at home minding our little girl who was 3 at the time.
He received a phone call from a male work colleague asking what he was doing and whether I was home.
H replies "nothing" & "no" ... So this guy says he's coming up to my house.....And apparently a conversation went down at work about a female who wanted her photo's taken.
So supposedly husband didn't know she was coming too..... Guess what.. The two of them are at my front door.
My husband allowed these 2 entry to our home... Where my innocent little girl was sleeping.
The 2 people got naked and started having sex.... I've seen the photos.
They stop for a moment and she approaches my husband who was taking photos.. Puts her hand up his shorts & he allows her to take off his shorts. She starts oral sex & he takes photos.
He tells me the act lasted less than a minute. And that he didn't 'finish'...
The OW then finished having sex with the other guy while my husband STILL TOOK PHOTOS.
They left.... Dirtying my towels & sheets - he quickly washes everything & has time to masturbate about what just took place before I got home from work.
I had a medical procedure 10 months later and found out I had chlamydia - he still didn't confess to me. Even when I told him I knew I was clean before we started seeing each other.
The reason I found these photos was because for 6 years he kept these photos. Hidden from me in a secret email account....but he started a profile on a bi sexual site.. His 'ad' stated "bi lady required" ... And he made contact with a couple from our area using his actual name and photos of himself including when the OW was going down on him.
He says that there were only a handful of emails sent before he realised how wrong it was and he thought he deleted everything.
But I found the email. He claims it was fiction. But there are some parts I can't get over. He said he was bisexual. He said he'd done sexual acts on other males. He said that he and this other woman were f buddies.
He strongly denies any of this is true.
I don't know if I believe him.
He says that those people only came to my house once. And he never saw her again.
I don't trust him.
He moved to his mums for a while but is at home at the moment. I'm trying to make our marriage work but some days I am full of hate for him, that just looking at him makes me want to be sick.
- my mum was having surgery to remove cancer & I rang him from the hospital when he was out (getting drunk in this other guys company) to tell of my anger at my brother in law finding out my Dad (a serial womaniser) was on a dating site.... He sounded genuinely upset.... Yet this was the exact time he was doing it to me.
I should also say that I found everything out at the same time.
I don't know what to do. Sorry this was so long...