I thought I'd heard it all
So, this 'colleague' - was he very close friends with your H? Because I have a lot of 'colleagues' and not one would show up at my home to have sex with a stranger while I took pictures. Think about that - on what planet is that even plausible?
Then, this strange woman just decides to take off the shorts of the photographer and put his penis in her mouth - but only for a minute. She brought him into their sexual photofest, but didn't have sex, or 'finish him off'. She merely performed oral 'for only a minute'. Still sound plausible?
Then Mr. Photographer shows up with an STD, where the likelihood of oral transmission is remote, but that's where it came from. Of course, for all these years, he didn't know where it came from. Now, now that proof of infidelity is found - well, that one incident, which of course is the only incident, is where the STD came from. Gee, isn't that odd? He's only cheated once, for a minute, and didn't get off, but he does have a set of photos of the event, that he keeps in his secret email account, and he sends these pictures out, of the one time ever in his life that he cheated, telling strangers that she's his fbuddy and asking for sex with men, women, basically anyone that would say yes.
But that was his only time cheating - with the colleague that found it appropriate to bring a whore over simply because you weren't there, and start having sex in front of your husband why he took photos.
The odds of his story being true are just a little more remote than the odds of me hitting powerball twice.
I'm very sorry. I know your world was just shredded by this discovery. But you must realize your H is into some versy dangerous behavior and has already exposed you to disease once. The next disease may not clear up with some antibiotics.
If you search that email address in Spokeo, I bet you'll find more accounts. If you search that picture, I bet you find more.
How did you find this email account? Check the 'trash' folder in the account, and the 'sent' folder. For some reason, a lot of people aren't quick enough to delete everything, but he will realize it, so do it NOW.
I'm so sorry - but he is lying through his teeth hoping you'll forget about this so he can get back to his strange double life.