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User Topic: Not sure if I belong but
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am lurking in D/S. I thought we were reconciling. but , not so sure.

I live in California( moved here 3 years ago)

I am currently not working, if I file for divorce will i get:

1. spousal support
2. covered under WS insurance?

Need to get ducks in a row prior to making any life altering decisions.

BS- Me -young at heart
FWH- AARP Eligible
M - Over a quarter of a century
DDay - 9-14-09
R - going full steam ahead

Posts: 349 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: West Coast
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really can't answer your questions but wanted to let you know that even though I am not certain WH and I are divorcing, I've learned a lot on this forum and keep reading the various threads. My WH doesn't seem to want to communicate so we are neither D or R---- but I am learning from this forum and have met with lawyers so when I feel and/or know the time is right- I will be prepared. So whether you belong or will learn and be empowered.

Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain

Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would suggest getting a free consult with a lawyer.
Eta.. get a bunch. I weaseled a bunch of free legal advice out of mine

Or check to see if there is a legal aide hotline for your county. They can give out legal advice for free over the phone.

Typically, your WS would be required to maintain your insurance while you are going through the process, but not after you are divorced.

My state requires the working spouse continue to support a non working spouse until the divorce is final. But I am not in Cali.

[This message edited by littlefoggy at 6:09 PM, January 10th (Friday)]

Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13

Posts: 505 | Registered: Nov 2013
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

25 years of marriage certainly entitles you to support if you aren't working. How much mostly depends on his income and some depends on your ability to find employment. You can stay on his insurance until divorce is final.

Something I learned from my lawyer: My STBX is 62 and should he decide to retire in 3 years, my support will decline drastically. Wasn't very happy with that piece of news.

Married 26 years
DDay #1 2/2002
DDay #2 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/9/2014

It's hard to see the road ahead if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.

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