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User Topic: Forgiving and moving on...
♂ 41347
Member # 41347
Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told my WW I am forgiving her and moving on...meaning I am detaching from her and I am not going to waste the energy spying on her. The last thing I am going to do is make another request for texts from our phone company, check to see if there are any numbers appearing multiple times that shouldn't be and just going on from there.

If she wanted to be back in this marriage, she would be doing it...not me. I am checking out.

I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...

Posts: 1045 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
♂ 35619
Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agree with everything except the request for the records. If you're moving forward with truly detaching then don't ask for then unless you require them for legal reasons

Posts: 4634 | Registered: May 2012
♀ 30853
Member # 30853
Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry that she's not fighting to save your marriage, but I'm glad you are now fighting to save yourself. There sometimes comes a point when there is no choice but to throw up the white flag and move forward.

BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 3873 | Registered: Jan 2011
♂ 41432
Member # 41432
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cheers to you Samurai, I will pour you a scotch tonight so you can join me. Definitely a moment when you see the picture in front of you.

ME (29) - BS
Her (29) - STBXWW
Dday - 10/25/2013
Married - 7/2007
Been Together - 9/2003

Posts: 83 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Midwest
♂ 41873
Member # 41873
Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very sorry to hear, LostSamurai.

Thinking good thoughts for you.

Me: FWH, 36
Her: BS, 35
Married: 9 years
Together: 10+ years
Kids: 2 Boys, 6 & 7

"The truth shall set you free, but first it will make you miserable."

Posts: 237 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: United States
♀ 41761
Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you're standing up for yourself!

wishing you some piece tonight...

Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 33
WBF: 30
Together 10 years
1 doggie, 1 Cat
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...Working at it every day.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
♀ 41745
Member # 41745
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think thats big of too Im getting to the point where it is just getting too exhausting and need peace...its a great step and hope it elevates you

"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 213 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
♂ 41927
Member # 41927
Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, January 11th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will never forgive my wife. Ever. For what she did and how she went about it. Im 9 months from d-day, separated, and headed for divorce.

She destroyed our future. She destroyed the last 14 years together. She destroyed my son's family.

I will carry this to my grave. Its horrible.

BH: 36 (me)
WS: 31 / OM: 31
Son: 12
Affair: 1.5 year long 2012
ONS with stranger Feb 2013
D-day #1 March 2013
D-day #2 April 2013
D-day #3 Sept 2013
Affair continued.
Limbo 7 months
Moved out - 180D - NC
A over. Defogged. Trying R

Posts: 212 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Tampa Florida
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