Me: FWH, 34
Has anyone else been through their ordeals and came out "thankful" for them on the other side for where it brought you?
Don't misinterpret what I'm saying. I am NOT glad or any other positive emotion that my As happened. I'll be honest, I am taking so many meds to keep my mind, body and mood balanced. I am so unbelievably ashamed of what I did I can't even put it into words. There have been multiple indiscretions, and I feel like stagnant water - just sitting there, wasting away and useless.
BUT, after coming clean to my wife - yes, there was TT, yes, there were "cover ups", but after REALLY confessing, and starting recovery, we're trying to find a positive in all this. So far, there aren't many.
The triggers have been many, and the calm moments of peace are few, and the road is smoothing but still under construction. But when those moments do come, and we can be together and happy in the moment, it's glorious.
My wife agrees - she isn't glad at all that what happened happened, but she is, for lack of a better term, grateful that it will lead to us being a stronger couple.
For the first time in my adult life, I don't want alcohol. I went and had my first physical in 10 years, I am quitting soda (and actually succeeding at it this time).
Since this has happened I just feel like a different person. I want to be the man my wife and kids deserve, and am trying really hard to get there.
It's actuality really hard to type this status, because it makes it seem as though I don't regret what I did, or that it was a good thing for us, etc. It's not. NO ONE should have to go through this, particularly the BS, but what's done is done, and now I can either dwell on it more, or work on it, find my core "why", and fix it so nothing like this happens again.
I have many moments of fear and doubt, but I feel like I am, for the most part, on the right path.
Forgive my being verbose - tonight is a night where I guess I needed to get that out.
I hope you don't misinterpret what I'm saying. This is not a positive situation, but maybe it will bring me (and thus us) to a better place.
Thanks for reading.
Her: BS, 33
Married: 7 years
Together: 10+ years
Kids: 2 Boys under 5
DDay1: 7+ years ago
DDay2: 1.5 years ago
"The truth shall set you free, but first it will make you miserable."