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hugejerk posted 1/11/2014 15:55 PM

I have been with my SO for three years now. During the first few months of us dating I had kissed another woman and flirted through texts while she was in another state. I haven't stopped feeling horrible about it yet.

I was not the one to tell her. Her D-Day was about 2 years ago. She found out and at first I denied it which was stupid. Over the past year I have told her all of the details. She says that she forgives me, but just does not trust me. I would do anything to gain it back and have been a picturesque boyfriend since then. We're still living together and practically dating, however I want to make it official and start a real life together once she graduates this year.

I love her more than anything and I was stupid and immature when I did those things. She gave me chances to come clean and I didn't take advantage of those. I finally did, but lost so much of her respect and trust.

We've scheduled a talk to finally discuss where we stand once she gets back from a trip in a few days. I wrote out all of my feelings, including that I believe caused me to do those things. I came clean to everything that I've done. I want to make a contract with her and make sure that she has access to full transparency from me. Any tips on how I can go about that or just general tips?

Thank you and god bless

wifehad5 posted 1/11/2014 16:04 PM

Sent you a PM

hugejerk posted 1/12/2014 02:00 AM

What were your experiences with finally having an open talk and how did your SO react?

wifehad5 posted 1/12/2014 21:49 PM

How are you doing today?

Jrazz posted 1/12/2014 21:51 PM

It sounds like you are looking for WS perspective, but if you're interested I'd be happy to share my reaction when Crazz finally sat me down for that open conversation. Thought I'd ask you first.