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 hugejerk (original poster new member #42023) posted at 9:55 PM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014

I have been with my SO for three years now. During the first few months of us dating I had kissed another woman and flirted through texts while she was in another state. I haven't stopped feeling horrible about it yet.

I was not the one to tell her. Her D-Day was about 2 years ago. She found out and at first I denied it which was stupid. Over the past year I have told her all of the details. She says that she forgives me, but just does not trust me. I would do anything to gain it back and have been a picturesque boyfriend since then. We're still living together and practically dating, however I want to make it official and start a real life together once she graduates this year.

I love her more than anything and I was stupid and immature when I did those things. She gave me chances to come clean and I didn't take advantage of those. I finally did, but lost so much of her respect and trust.

We've scheduled a talk to finally discuss where we stand once she gets back from a trip in a few days. I wrote out all of my feelings, including that I believe caused me to do those things. I came clean to everything that I've done. I want to make a contract with her and make sure that she has access to full transparency from me. Any tips on how I can go about that or just general tips?

Thank you and god bless

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wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 10:04 PM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014

Sent you a PM

FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live

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 hugejerk (original poster new member #42023) posted at 8:00 AM on Sunday, January 12th, 2014

What were your experiences with finally having an open talk and how did your SO react?

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wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 3:49 AM on Monday, January 13th, 2014

How are you doing today?

FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 3:51 AM on Monday, January 13th, 2014

It sounds like you are looking for WS perspective, but if you're interested I'd be happy to share my reaction when Crazz finally sat me down for that open conversation. Thought I'd ask you first.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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