Hello - I'm curious why you're using your husband's account, but that is between the two of you really. It's interesting.
I have read his posts, and now yours. From reading his posts, it seems like your family is a bit overinvolved in your marriage, but yu don't mention that here. Do you agree with that?
I really suggest counseling. You and your H seem to be coming from two very different places, and that's never a good place to start. A counselor may help you find some common ground.
I do hope things get better in your home. It sounds like all of you could use some stability in your lives.
Keep posting. The WSs here have a wealth of information to offer. If you want to find a path to a better relationship, the folks here have done and seen just about everything - and I do NOT say that in a bad way - and they are generous enough to share what thye've learned even though at times it can be painful for them. They have a tremendous amount of knowledge and compassion to offer.