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User Topic: cannot wait until DS goes back to college
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been a long 4 weeks.. and still one more week to go!

- the food this boy eats
- the laundry
- the coming and goings
_ the few nights he's home - really loud x-box, music
- coming home way past curfew
- worrying about him either driving in snow, ice, or being out, either drinking or at parties...

Neithless to say.. I haven't had a really good night of sleep!

I had really missed him, when he left in Aug. But, man., Guess I got used to have my home all for me and my daughter!

He doesn't even EVER stay at STBX's either....

I'm ready for him to go already!!

Bad mommy!

Please tell me, that I'm not the only one feeling this way?


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 531 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
RightTrack
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Default  Posted: 12:44 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sometimes daydream about this. I've got a good 10 years to wait for it though.

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Totally get this, Jackie, and I have felt the same about my dear daughter.

When she came home from college, apparently she felt she was no longer subject to the "house rules". She was disrespectful and inconsiderate.

After another night of her not coming home and not letting me know what was going on and her whereabouts, I packed up her suitcases. When she came home she was greeted in the foyer by her suitcases and me. I told her as that she obviously had other places to stay she needed to leave now and go there.

Wow! Fastest turn around evah. Begged for forgiveness and told me she would do better and she did.

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 9:05 AM, January 12th (Sunday)]


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@ Sister.... OMG. I so admire you!

I'm a such a sucker, when it comes to my son! He was there for me in the hardest of times, so I excuse many behaviors that I shouldn't. But I will definately need to keep your idea in mind for the coming summer!!

Thank you!


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 531 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My DS pulled some of that stuff the first summer he came home from college. I understood it to be one of those *transition* times (he had become used to only having to care about himself), but I didn't like how it was happening.

I told him that he had a choice. We could either have a mom/son relationship where he showed consideration for me/my house/my rules, OR we could have a landlord/tenant relationship which included him paying room/board and for use of the car (but he was free to come and go as he pleased).

He was much more considerate after that.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Both my young adult sons still live at home while going to a local college. Sometimes I really long for the day when they decide to move out, because going to the grocery store will be so much cheaper.


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Posts: 12172 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG yes! (And I feel like a horrible mother for saying it).

My darling daughter has also been home for 4 weeks and she's driving me insane. One more week to go....


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6689 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
copout
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish mine would stay at home forever!! I miss him when he goes back to school.


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Posts: 293 | Registered: Jan 2009
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I miss him when he goes back to school.
A few days after D20 is back at school, I'll be singing this tune too.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6689 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone, glad I'm not alone!
@ Gonna, I like your idea too!

His, favorite sentence to me is: "you're sooo annoying" .. yeah luv you to DS.

Better find my mini bitch boots for him too


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 531 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
circe
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes my son is home for 4 weeks as well!

Please tell me how going from a family of 3 (or 4, if my stepdaughter is staying with us) to a family of 4 or 5 when DS comes home has literally doubled our grocery bill! Doubled! As in one extra person eats as much as 3 others!

And how have I gotten such glowing reports from dorm life about how he is the only one who cleans his suite, he is the only one who takes out the recycling, actual requests for cleaning products to be mailed in care packages, texts with pictures of a pile of clothes and "laundry day!!" sent to me with some regularity - and yet the boy who is currently inhabiting his room is sleeping amongst piles of dirty clothes, hasn't so much as taken out the trash once in the last month and gives me the "Moooooom!" when I ask him to remove illicit soda cans from wherever he hides them in his room?

I asked him if I could have the cleaner, dorm-version of DS just for the day. He gives me that look and tells me he just wants Mom to take care of him for a while... sniff sniff.


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