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jackie89 posted 1/12/2014 00:02 AM

It's been a long 4 weeks.. and still one more week to go!

- the food this boy eats
- the laundry
- the coming and goings
_ the few nights he's home - really loud x-box, music
- coming home way past curfew
- worrying about him either driving in snow, ice, or being out, either drinking or at parties...

Neithless to say.. I haven't had a really good night of sleep!

I had really missed him, when he left in Aug. But, man., Guess I got used to have my home all for me and my daughter!

He doesn't even EVER stay at STBX's either....

I'm ready for him to go already!!

Bad mommy!

Please tell me, that I'm not the only one feeling this way?

RightTrack posted 1/12/2014 00:44 AM

I sometimes daydream about this. I've got a good 10 years to wait for it though.

SisterMilkshake posted 1/12/2014 09:04 AM

Totally get this, Jackie, and I have felt the same about my dear daughter.

When she came home from college, apparently she felt she was no longer subject to the "house rules". She was disrespectful and inconsiderate.

After another night of her not coming home and not letting me know what was going on and her whereabouts, I packed up her suitcases. When she came home she was greeted in the foyer by her suitcases and me. I told her as that she obviously had other places to stay she needed to leave now and go there.

Wow! Fastest turn around evah. Begged for forgiveness and told me she would do better and she did.

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 9:05 AM, January 12th (Sunday)]

jackie89 posted 1/12/2014 09:40 AM

@ Sister.... OMG. I so admire you!

I'm a such a sucker, when it comes to my son! He was there for me in the hardest of times, so I excuse many behaviors that I shouldn't. But I will definately need to keep your idea in mind for the coming summer!!

Thank you!

gonnabe2016 posted 1/12/2014 10:08 AM

My DS pulled some of that stuff the first summer he came home from college. I understood it to be one of those *transition* times (he had become used to only having to care about himself), but I didn't like how it was happening.

I told him that he had a choice. We could either have a mom/son relationship where he showed consideration for me/my house/my rules, OR we could have a landlord/tenant relationship which included him paying room/board and for use of the car (but he was free to come and go as he pleased).

He was much more considerate after that.

inconnu posted 1/12/2014 11:17 AM

Both my young adult sons still live at home while going to a local college. Sometimes I really long for the day when they decide to move out, because going to the grocery store will be so much cheaper.

GabyBaby posted 1/12/2014 11:21 AM

OMG yes! (And I feel like a horrible mother for saying it).

My darling daughter has also been home for 4 weeks and she's driving me insane. One more week to go....

copout posted 1/12/2014 12:48 PM

I wish mine would stay at home forever!! I miss him when he goes back to school.

GabyBaby posted 1/12/2014 12:54 PM

I miss him when he goes back to school.
A few days after D20 is back at school, I'll be singing this tune too.

jackie89 posted 1/12/2014 22:34 PM

Thank you everyone, glad I'm not alone!
@ Gonna, I like your idea too!

His, favorite sentence to me is: "you're sooo annoying" .. yeah luv you to DS.

Better find my mini bitch boots for him too

circe posted 1/13/2014 06:06 AM

Yes my son is home for 4 weeks as well!

Please tell me how going from a family of 3 (or 4, if my stepdaughter is staying with us) to a family of 4 or 5 when DS comes home has literally doubled our grocery bill! Doubled! As in one extra person eats as much as 3 others!

And how have I gotten such glowing reports from dorm life about how he is the only one who cleans his suite, he is the only one who takes out the recycling, actual requests for cleaning products to be mailed in care packages, texts with pictures of a pile of clothes and "laundry day!!" sent to me with some regularity - and yet the boy who is currently inhabiting his room is sleeping amongst piles of dirty clothes, hasn't so much as taken out the trash once in the last month and gives me the "Moooooom!" when I ask him to remove illicit soda cans from wherever he hides them in his room?

I asked him if I could have the cleaner, dorm-version of DS just for the day. He gives me that look and tells me he just wants Mom to take care of him for a while... sniff sniff.

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