Not been on here for ages as I was triggering too much! Quick recap! H emailed me to let me know he was leaving and I have not seen him or spoken to him since that email (married 30 years). Our situation is complicated in that we are now both living in countries other than our own and it is almost impossible to get divorced. So he continues to pay all bill at our home as normal. We found out about his OW who is a younger foreign woman living off him. He didn't contact anybody for ages apart from occasional emails but at Christmas he turned up with OW in tow at his sisters. I am finding this difficult to cope with for many reasons. One, she is a good friend who helped me through this and I adore my nephews and nieces. Two, I dread this woman meeting my own adult children.
My H is trying to act as if I never existed and now seems to be trying to work his way back into our family as if nothing has happened with this woman. After all I went through (nervous breakdown etc etc) I feel this will push me over the edge again. Some days I just don't think I will ever get over this and yet he seems to be just fine. I have been to therapy etc but although it helps for a bit I still feel stuck in a rut and not able to move forward.
Sorry this all sounds like a moan but I feel safe here.