advice needed. I have full custody of 2 kids. he signed off cause I had a psych sign a letter stating he was an unfit parent. he didnt want to fight it. hes had a dui and picked my kids up hrs later (he didnt tell me)
he has a rep with dating alot of girls and he now likes them with kids. probably uses my kids as bait to get these 20 yr olds. they all break up with him after a while.
Ive been to home 2 times in last yr. both times, cps should have been called. there was garbage overflowing, barely could walk in door with stuff everywhere, old food all over, kids rooms had clothing all over floor. I commented and he says his mom says the same stuff. i wished I had taken pictures!! but my phone makes a click sound when I take pics.
so kids tell me hes had girls over there 2 times now in 2 weeks. 3 days ago he drove with my toddler not in a carseat. she told me, he admitted to it. i ask him about girl and we have a signed agreement stating no one can meet our kids for 3 months and no sleep overs for 6. I one time had person I was dating meet my child at 10-11 weeks. he holds that against me to have a girl hes dated 2 weeks to sleep over at his house.
he gets kids 30 hrs in a week. he says that his only free time, so I said, then you go on your date, cause thats more important, and you can get kids when date is done or next visit. he doesnt like that. well I have a mind and im protecting kids so you need to do it.
hes suppose to get kids in an hr and a half and i sent a text he can go on date and get kids later. also school called to say our kid needs counseling and showing extreme shifts in behavior. really? you think? I let him know, he never commented. ofcourse.
I really want to move out of state. last time I tried he fought it and the mediator said to him, you dont make kids priority. now you can fight but its unlikely you will win. ex said he cant even take kids full time so mediator said who will watch them, he said my gf. her eyes widened. of course that girl is long gone. she had a kid too and my kids miss that child. he went on to date 2 other girl with kids, who my kids got attached to and not they broke up. the gf now has a kid. clearly I cannot make him have commonsense.
Im tempted to message her my wishes and the court order. cause if he stays with this girl, I want to be able to get along with her. but they need to be smart in dating is not a family thing
[This message edited by lifestoshort at 7:52 PM, January 12th (Sunday)]