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User Topic: He is a Hoarder
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG.

I am cleaning out the basement. Hefty bagging all STBX's crap. And O. M. G. He is a hoarder.

I used to joke that if it weren't for me, he would die buried under a pile of Model Railroader magazines... but I don't think it was all that joke-y.

I found:
A drawer full of empty spice containers
A milk crate full of old charger cables to god knows what stuff we don't have any more.
A pile of empty to go containers (cleaned out... I assume for sorting).
Drawer of bits of electronics that he had taken apart and sorted into bits. (like if a remote broke, he would open it and take all the bits off the board)
Tons of scrap wood from old furniture. I recognized a piece that was from a bed we had before we got married

6 construction size black trash bags full of trash and most of his hoard-y stuff that was in containers, I just moved the whole thing over to his pile o' crap. And I am not even half way done with the basement.

Feels good getting his stuff cleaned up and this is the highest concentration of it. I am going to have sooooo much room.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's an amateur! LOL

Actually, it would be great if you could keep posting for us the fun things you find. I spent the better part of two years keeping the SI community alternately entertained and horrified with what I found in The Garage. It would be nice to have someone take my place and regale us with tales of The Basement.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any caulk guns????


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will absolutely keep posting the stuff I find. I still have the rest of the basement, a storage unit, and an attic.

A playstation car racing game steering wheel and pedals for a playstation we don't own. And a car racing game we don't own.

A pin up of Sandra Bullock from... rough estimate 1990. In a bra. Poster size. Framed.

I keep finding model rail road track laid out EVERYWHERE. Just on shelves. And on top of cabinets. Going nowhere. And no little trains. (Well, he probably took the trains)

But how did I not notice his museum of little trains all over every single thing?


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 498 | Registered: Nov 2013
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any caulk guns????

LOL I bet this is a joke but...tons of caulk guns. And cases of caulk.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

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PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any caulk guns????

I was going to ask the same thing!

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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..

.."He's an amateur!!!!!"


entertained and horrified with what I found in The Garage.


I love my garage!!!!

..the thought of moving it if I divorce is mind-boggling

smy

[This message edited by somanyyears at 9:57 PM, January 12th (Sunday)]


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bet this is a joke but...tons of caulk guns. And cases of caulk.

Actually, caulk guns (& the cases!) confirm the diagnostic criteria for Fucked Up in the Head Syndrome in the new DSM manuals - it's important for your healing to know this!
I think the new code is FUCKYOU.
It establishes the medical necessity for you to have hugs,
and cookies
and other cool stuff
oh!
and a new life! (without the fukking anchor at your side)
but...what do I know? Caulk is cheap.


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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL I bet this is a joke but...tons of caulk guns

Yes, as we have discussed up in the NPD Thread, the DSM 44 criteria for NPD clearly states that possession of 4 or more caulk guns in a residential garage demonstrates a deep-seated personality disorder.

Possession of greater than 7 caulk guns means you should just drop everything and run from the situation!



Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We're going to need more hefty bags...

Posts: 6759 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am on top of the cookie prescription!

Tonight I found.

A bunch of displays from his time working retail. Like those in store demo boxes.

A ton of foam board from in store displays. And a whole set of drawers (poorly) made from the foam board...

More freaking scrap wood. Inside the poorly made drawers from foam board. Just use the scrap wood to make the drawers. Or is that a catch-22?

About 1000 blank membership cards from when he worked at a video rental store. (Which was like 20 years ago... and also video rental stores don't exist anymore)



Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 498 | Registered: Nov 2013
jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FOR: littlefoggy
Re: Cookie Rx
Any and all amounts, be they chocolate, sprinkles, or whatever she demands, desires, or snickers at:
YOU. PHARMACIST
fill that fukker.
NOW
Signed:
!@#$%^&*((

Posts: 6759 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, I threw out about 10 caulk guns when xh left. All dried up and half used. I had no idea I qualified for a hoarder xh although I had an idea just simply based on the amount of stuff in the house.

Did I mention he saved every piece of paperwork and I found unopened mail from 1996 on forward....?


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

These caulk gun stories amaze me.

I know everyone is kidding about the caulk guns being part of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders for NPD but maybe the APA needs to be alerted to this.

eta: I think that all single women should take dates to Home Depot and see if the man rushes to the caulk aisle.

[This message edited by Afraid2LoveAgain at 12:37 AM, January 14th (Tuesday)]


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Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:44 AM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

but...what do I know? Caulk is cheap.

@ jjct!


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happenedtome
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Default  Posted: 3:14 AM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T/J=> SoManyYears . . . I'm a little concerned about what it says about ME, but all I could think when
I saw your neatly stockpiled treasures was, "OMG! Somebody needs to roll up those stirrups!!"

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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


.. @ happenedtome..

..I have the saddle, now all I need is a horse to put it on.. or a horse on which to put it!

..btw, I too have caulking guns... and caulk!! Two to be precise, ..and two tubes of not too dried out caulk. One caulk gun and one caulk tube here and one caulk gun and one caulk tube at the cottage. Which reminds me, I'm going to need more caulk, as the one tube of caulk I have at the cottage will be completely dried out come springtime..

.. ..@ littlefoggy.. please excuse the t/j

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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dontknowwhyme
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bad that it makes me sad when I hear about someone throwing away so much "good" stuff? Railroad stuff can be worth some good money too.


BS 38
FWW 37 (fireandice)
Married 13 Years - Together 20
D-Day1:Jan 08 (EA OM#1)
D-Day2:8-15-08 (EA/PA OM#2)
DS12, DS9
D-Day3:11-3-10
Divorced 1-27-11
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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

smy - That's a nice saddle


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.

Posts: 1815 | Registered: Sep 2012
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bad that it makes me sad when I hear about someone throwing away so much "good" stuff? Railroad stuff can be worth some good money too.

He took all the good stuff. All I have left is track and little trees. A couple of little people. I "packed" it all up for him anyway.

You can have the Model Railroader Magazines, I think they go back to the 80s.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

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