I haven't posted in a very long time. To briefly catch everyone up, I separated from WW in May 2013 after having been married for 5 years. At that time, our only child, was a 2 year old daughter.
For the first 3 months, I lived in various hotel rooms. For the past 5 months, I have lived in 1 bedroom 1 den apartment 7 minutes from the marital home. We have a nanny that is with our daughter 10 hours/day, except for the 2 days she's in preschool for 2.5 hours each day. Our daughter has no health issues or disabilities. Her development physically and mentally has been age-appropriate.
My DD has yet to spend a night in my home with me. I do, however, see her everyday with very few exceptions. I either see her briefly in the morning before work, or I see her for a couple of hours after work before her bedtime at 8. I also spend a half-day with her each Saturday and Sunday. Each time I'm with her, I'm either at the marital home or a playground somewhere. Very recently, I occasionally bring her to my apartment to play.
When is the appropriate time for a toddler her age to start spending the night in my home with me? Is it appropriate for her to ever spend half of the time with me (not necessarily right this minute but ever)?
I very much want my DD to start spending the night with me now. I don't want to automatically just jump to 50/50, but I would like to have a structured transition to prepare her emotionally. My STBXW doesn't ever want her to be with me 50% of the time. She has stated that she thinks our DD will "soon" be able to spend the night with me but will not commit to a time to start the overnights.
Can anyone please share with me their experiences with this? I would like to know what is reasonable about overnights.
Thanks in advance for your opinions