My WH has been involved with "just a friend" for I do not know how long. I found the proof 12/15 and said end it with no more contact and I won't say anything to her long term partner.
They have been together 6+ years. He is disabled. He financially supports her and is the father figure to her 2 kids--one of whom is my son's best friend. As far as I can tell there has been no contact, but I have been dx'd with herpes one of the genitalia, initial exposure. Husband swears she is his only other woman (WOW. I feel better!) She swears she has never so much as had a cold sore or any type of STD...except HPV, but that doesn't count because it only gives you cervical cancer. No. WH did not go to MENSA looking for his AP. So, someone is lying...again. Therefore, the deal ended.
It took days of digging because I just do not do this. But, I found his name and home phone. Then I found his cell. I sent him a short text. This is who I am, sorry to hurt you or those two kids but our partners were involved in a relationship. Your partner will deny it. She already tried to with me until she found out I had copies of her texts to my husband on my phone. I can send them to you if you need to see them. The point of this is that a complete STD panel shows I am positive for X when I was not on this date. You need to get tested, too.
That is it. Well, I apologized again because I know I just sent a fricking wrecking ball through his heart and his life. Me. Granted, I did not lie, cheat or betray my vows. I did not do anything but love and trust my husband, but I just destroyed that man's life...and more than likely the lives of two more innocent children.
So, I sat and cried. Did that effing whore ever cry for what she did to me or my family or did she just sit on MY husband's lap and take everything she could?
How can you hate someone you love so much?