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sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885 |  Posted: 3:08 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 |     |
Six months into this shit. I guess it's a good thing that it took most of the day to realize it. I know my tag thing says 6/13 but it was 7/13. Fuck it. What's another month. I went to her work to pick up 2014 insurance cards. Not a huge deal. Then I went to lunch and did some shopping for myself. I reached out to a few friends. She texted me later what she was doing at work. You see, this idiot thinks we are buds. I couldn't help it, I wrote back, told her I was having a glass of wine and watching the rain. She remarked that I looked good, seemed different, happier and asked what other things I was planning and doing. The following is a direct quote of what I wrote her:
"I dealt with the burdens and pain of this journey you sent me on by myself. I think I'll keep the rewards for myself as well"
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
Posts: 793 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach. |
HobbesTheTiger
♂ 41477
Member # 41477 | | Posted: 3:21 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
I'm sure others, more experienced, will be along soon to give better replies, but I just wanted to say I'm glad that you're moving on towards a happy/ier you without toxic people in your life!
I and I'm sure many others would be happy to read about all the rewards on your journey thus far, all the things you're looking forward to at this point, the things/people that make you feel better at this point etc. Of course, when you'll have time and will feel like writing about it, here or on any other thread.
Live long and prosper:) [This message edited by HobbesTheTiger at 3:28 PM, January 13th (Monday)]
BxBf, 26
Lots of FOO&other issues, working it through therapy
Legal profession
Posts: 989 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Continental Europe |
Take2
♀ 23890
Member # 23890 | | Posted: 3:25 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
I for one love your response... Crickets is usually best - you just gave her an articulated cricket!
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Posts: 4254 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England |
Jrazz
♀ 31349
Member # 31349 | | Posted: 3:29 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
Ugh. Passively trying to pretend that things are fine so that she doesn't have to face what she's done. Yuck.
You sound like you're doing a great job of taking care of yourself. Good for you for getting out there and reaching out to your friends.
(((sl)))
"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron
Posts: 20727 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 3:30 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
(((((sunsets))))) I'm glad you are keeping the rewards for yourself as well.
It gets better, hon. It already IS getting better. And you're the one making that happen. Carry on. 
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28195 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
ImEnoughForMe
♀ 41869
Member # 41869 | | Posted: 4:16 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
Love your response. 
Do the best you can do until you know better. Then when you know better, do better. - Maya Angelou
Posts: 74 | Registered: Jan 2014 |
pregnantandsad
♀ 40141
Member # 40141 | | Posted: 4:25 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
I love the response
M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filed for D, almost done!
Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California |
neverwillhapn2me
♂ 41912
Member # 41912 | | Posted: 5:31 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
That is a PHENOMENOL response, You should use it as your signature on SI.
The saddest thing about betrayal is it never comes from your enemies
If your searching for that one person that will change your life, look in the mirror.
Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Ontario |
TheRealDeal
♀ 39560
Member # 39560 | | Posted: 6:01 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
Awesome response.
hope you don't mind sunsetslost but I added it down in the F&G quote thread
Me (BS): 46 him (fws): 54
together 18 years
DDay1, DDay2, Dday 3: March thru June 2013
in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.
Posts: 316 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast |
BAB61
♀ 41181
Member # 41181 | | Posted: 6:04 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
(((Sunsetslost))) WTG! Hope for me....soon, soon!
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE |
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229 | | Posted: 7:09 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
I'm a big fan of crickets but boy have there been some zingers here lately. If you're going to break NC that was a great way to do it.
At 6m out from DD I was a month into S and still on auto pilot. My response would not have been so articulate.
The opposite of love is indifference. You're getting there. It's OK to still feel hurt/angry about it.
Enjoy your rewards - there will be many more rewards to come.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5840 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia |
WastedTime12
♀ 34767
Member # 34767 | | Posted: 8:04 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
Sunset, May I borrow this quote? Sums it up awesomely!! Please, pretty please.
Keep on moving forward.
Life is meant to be lived, not numbed!
In his quest for freedom, he set me free!
Posts: 220 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Dallas, TX |
sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885 | | Posted: 9:33 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
Use it. Quote it. Own it. But please LIVE IT!!! Whatever your journey holds, please choose to grow.
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
Posts: 793 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach. |
SusanR
♀ 29368
Member # 29368 | | Posted: 9:46 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
Love it!
Posts: 1965 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Midwest |
Thefly559
♂ 40268
Member # 40268 | | Posted: 10:43 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014 | |
I love it brother but crickets is what she deserves stay strong
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
Posts: 767 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc |
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