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sunsetslost posted 1/13/2014 15:08 PM

Six months into this shit. I guess it's a good thing that it took most of the day to realize it. I know my tag thing says 6/13 but it was 7/13. Fuck it. What's another month. I went to her work to pick up 2014 insurance cards. Not a huge deal. Then I went to lunch and did some shopping for myself. I reached out to a few friends. She texted me later what she was doing at work. You see, this idiot thinks we are buds. I couldn't help it, I wrote back, told her I was having a glass of wine and watching the rain. She remarked that I looked good, seemed different, happier and asked what other things I was planning and doing. The following is a direct quote of what I wrote her:

"I dealt with the burdens and pain of this journey you sent me on by myself. I think I'll keep the rewards for myself as well"

HobbesTheTiger posted 1/13/2014 15:21 PM

I'm sure others, more experienced, will be along soon to give better replies, but I just wanted to say I'm glad that you're moving on towards a happy/ier you without toxic people in your life!

I and I'm sure many others would be happy to read about all the rewards on your journey thus far, all the things you're looking forward to at this point, the things/people that make you feel better at this point etc. Of course, when you'll have time and will feel like writing about it, here or on any other thread.

Live long and prosper:)

[This message edited by HobbesTheTiger at 3:28 PM, January 13th (Monday)]

Take2 posted 1/13/2014 15:25 PM

I for one love your response... Crickets is usually best - you just gave her an articulated cricket!

Jrazz posted 1/13/2014 15:29 PM

Ugh. Passively trying to pretend that things are fine so that she doesn't have to face what she's done. Yuck.

You sound like you're doing a great job of taking care of yourself. Good for you for getting out there and reaching out to your friends.

(((sl)))

nowiknow23 posted 1/13/2014 15:30 PM

(((((sunsets))))) I'm glad you are keeping the rewards for yourself as well.

It gets better, hon. It already IS getting better. And you're the one making that happen. Carry on.

ImEnoughForMe posted 1/13/2014 16:16 PM

Love your response.

pregnantandsad posted 1/13/2014 16:25 PM

I love the response

neverwillhapn2me posted 1/13/2014 17:31 PM

That is a PHENOMENOL response, You should use it as your signature on SI.

TheRealDeal posted 1/13/2014 18:01 PM

Awesome response.

hope you don't mind sunsetslost but I added it down in the F&G quote thread

BAB61 posted 1/13/2014 18:04 PM

(((Sunsetslost))) WTG! Hope for me....soon, soon!

SBB posted 1/13/2014 19:09 PM

I'm a big fan of crickets but boy have there been some zingers here lately. If you're going to break NC that was a great way to do it.

At 6m out from DD I was a month into S and still on auto pilot. My response would not have been so articulate.

The opposite of love is indifference. You're getting there. It's OK to still feel hurt/angry about it.

Enjoy your rewards - there will be many more rewards to come.

WastedTime12 posted 1/13/2014 20:04 PM

Sunset, May I borrow this quote? Sums it up awesomely!! Please, pretty please.

Keep on moving forward.

sunsetslost posted 1/13/2014 21:33 PM

Use it. Quote it. Own it. But please LIVE IT!!! Whatever your journey holds, please choose to grow.

SusanR posted 1/13/2014 21:46 PM

Love it!

Thefly559 posted 1/13/2014 22:43 PM

I love it brother but crickets is what she deserves stay strong