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Smashedat58 posted 1/13/2014 18:43 PM

After much reading and soul searching, I am starting to understand why I have been so angry at my WS. I am feeling pain in response to his betrayal. Anger is a responsive feeling to my pain. I am in pain because of his betrayal. His betrayal has caused the loss of my future dream. And the future is only a dream. It's not written down anywhere, and it exists as a hope. His future hope is not the same as mine. He wants to make his life with someone else, and I'm not in that picture. I have grieved the loss of something that I never owned. If I don't try to hang on to my dream future, then I've lost nothing. By letting go of that, I'm willing to accept my true future. I have let go of my grief, and I feel so much relieved. I know that I can build a wonderful future just for myself. After all, I helped build our wonderful past, and our fabulous children.

Skan posted 1/13/2014 19:10 PM

Good for you! Reclaim YOUR future, your dreams. (((hugs)))

nowiknow23 posted 1/13/2014 19:15 PM

There is so much power to be gained in letting go of what we don't control. Well done, Smashed!

HighSticked posted 1/13/2014 21:59 PM

Kudos to that. I'm bookmarking this thread. I think I may be needing it for the next few years.

Smashedat58 posted 1/14/2014 07:35 AM

I keep thinking of that song "I can see clearly, now" sung by Johnny Nash. Since I decided to let go of my anger, after understanding why I was feeling it, and how it was making me ill. I slept over 8 hours last night. I'm wishing you all a good night's sleep, too. It can do wonders.

Kitty70 posted 1/15/2014 05:42 AM

This is great. I can't wait to get there myself. Had a dream this a.m. that woke me up and I was so angry.

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